playlislay Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Hey Soulbear, that letter could have easily been from my ex. All of the words that you were saying, really hit home. So I would just like to thank you for that. Stick with the NC dude, please? x
Author BearPower Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 Well done. Getting the cash for round-trip tickets for Glasgow/Edinburgh/Outer Hebrides was going to be tricky. I can hook you up! But you wont see me, as you missed out the chunk of glen where i live, in your itinery **** that was a close one. Im soo glad i didnt send it. Im so angry with her tho, i feel really disrespected. Im sure she does too tho with the fact i keep asking. You know what the HARDEST part of dealing with all this is? She shows not an ounce of emotion, like its just plane sailing, doesnt care how I feel AT ALL....I dont know...what does that say about the relationship. **** it.
GorillaTheater Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I can hook you up! My wife (and mother of my 8 kids) might object, but I sincerely appreciate the offer. If you're ever in Texas, look me up. We'll go rustle some cattle or something.
Author BearPower Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 Hey Soulbear, that letter could have easily been from my ex. All of the words that you were saying, really hit home. So I would just like to thank you for that. Stick with the NC dude, please? x howd it hit home with you? Then how is it ever going to hit home with her, she is more stubborn than a stub (self confessed)?! I doubt very much she will be looking on a website like this and have it all smash into her. I will stick with NC. But I hope one day she has the same realisation as you Lislay. At least I helped someone else, I guess for that I can be thankful. I hope you manage to resolve your issues playlislay..... SoulBear
Author BearPower Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 My wife (and mother of my 8 kids) might object, but I sincerely appreciate the offer. If you're ever in Texas, look me up. We'll go rustle some cattle or something. -Searches Texan state directory for first name Gorilla, last name Theater-
Nuala83 Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Well done for not sending it Soul!!! Now don't go changing your mind ok. Just remember all the other cold as ice responses you've had. -Nuala x
boogieboy Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Dont send it, but keep writing more. maybe put them in this thread instead of sending them to her.
Author BearPower Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 Im just going to print it out, and then burn it. Hopefully the Universe will send it to her somehow I need to stay in NC. I also need to change the name of the thread too 'I REALLY want to embarase myself''
Art_Critic Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 WTF is wrong with you ?... Im heartbroken ArtCritic. Dude.. I know you are.. just keep posting here and don't contact her... Use this place for a sounding board.. which is what you did today.. keep it up..
Author BearPower Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 Dude.. I know you are.. just keep posting here and don't contact her... Use this place for a sounding board.. which is what you did today.. keep it up.. man you guys are helpful
Lucky_One Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 OMG. Thank you, LS posters, for saving SoulBear from sending this! Bear, delete it, burn it, do whatever with it, but get rid of it now. You don't want to keep seeing this in your draft folder - you have the personality that will see it in 3 months and say 'HEY! She needs to read this!" and hit send. You DO have closure. She HAS talked to you. What sort of closure do you think you are going to get? Will the skies open from the Heavens and rain pixie dust down on you as you both hold hands on a moor and sing "Auld Land Syne" and pinky promise to never forget the good times and to invite each other to your weddings? That never happens. Quit searching for the unicorns; they don't exist.
Author BearPower Posted June 13, 2009 Author Posted June 13, 2009 Reading this back today....OMFG...... What was I thinking... Im so glad I didnt send it!!! THANK YOU LS MEMBERS indeed, for saving me from making this mistake. Lucky- I printed it out, read it over and burnt it. She will get the message in her own time. By herself. Im not really that personality who would send it in 3 months!! I got closure already, I know. Its just the communication that has really bugged me... Yesterday was a VERY frustrating day for me....I had it in my head that I finally pushed her to go to someone else for her needs. Im almost certain that is what my last contact with her has done. I went nuts. So im done.
playlislay Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 howd it hit home with you? Then how is it ever going to hit home with her, she is more stubborn than a stub (self confessed)?! I doubt very much she will be looking on a website like this and have it all smash into her. I will stick with NC. But I hope one day she has the same realisation as you Lislay. At least I helped someone else, I guess for that I can be thankful. I hope you manage to resolve your issues playlislay..... SoulBear The reason it hit home is because I was the one in my relationship wo found it hard to communicate. There were many other reasons that caused the break up but I KNOW that it would have survied if I had communicated more instead of throwing in the towel. Dumping him WAS my communication-I didnt know how to deal ith my negative feelings. For example, he suggested relationship councelling and I denied it (He cheated at the begining, major mental affect on me). I wouldnt mind but I was the one who wanted to do it in the first place but thaught he would turn it down- I didnt think I meant THAT much to him-as I know he doesnt like that kind of stuff. So there you have it, me being a **** communicator killed something really special and Ive regretted it to this day. But in all fairness, he was just as bad with communication, but seeing as I initiated the break up due to confusion in how I should express my problems, I feel like Im the one to blame. So ........... your letter could have easily of come from him and gave me a deeper understanding of what it was like to be in his position. Needless to say I did regret it IMMEDIATELY after but he agreed that it wasnt working, despite how strong the love is/was. God I miss that man, but we gotta keep moving forward Mr!
Author BearPower Posted June 13, 2009 Author Posted June 13, 2009 Thats good to hear. Thanks for that. How long did it take you to realise your issue with comms.? I have a funny feeling, that you will now be an excellent communicator
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