tigressA Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I blogged about this on another site but want to know what you LSers think. I got a much shorter haircut recently; I had more than 6 inches cut off and ended up with a really cute layered bob that's just above my chin. Before I had it done my boyfriend wasn't too happy about it, thought it would be "too short", saying that he prefers my longer hair. But he ended up liking it after I got it done. I'm thinking of going even shorter after awhile and I don't know how he will react to it. When I was at the salon, the woman who cut my hair told me that she had once cut off all her hair into a Sharon Stone pixie and had it bleached blond. Her husband was so angry with her that she slept on the couch for a week and he didn't speak to her for another two weeks. Doesn't that sound like a horrible overreaction? It IS her hair, after all! What would you do, LSers? Do you think you would be upset with your partner if they had something done that made them look really different, like a drastic haircut, a new haircolor, a new makeup look, a different clothing style? What is the "rule" in things like this? Should you get input from your partner before going ahead with something like that? What would you do if your partner got upset about your new look?
MusicChick24 Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Basically it is your hair. I don't know why someone would react so negatively to a haircut like the scenario you mentioned. If your partner truly cares about you they should take it as part of you. I do know how you feel though. I've been cautious with my looks in the past because my boyfriend didn't want me to cut my hair cause he liked it long and was afraid I would cut it "too short" and I never colored my hair because his mom didn't like that. However it made me so resentful of them for not letting me be me. I don't know about you, but I have long, thick hair, and I hate it being long. The longer it gets the more it annoys me because it becomes hard to deal with. I like medium length but what I consider medium length is "too short" to my bf, but in the end he deals with whatever I do. So in the end...do what you want with your hair. If gets upset don't pay any attention.
boldjack Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Tigger, This depends on your status as a couple. If you are an exclusive couple then you shouldn't do anything that is seriously objected to by your partner. If he decided to grow a full(grizzly Adams) beard, and dress in bib overalls and ratty t-shirt, would you object? If you (both) are in a committed relationship, then you should discuss anything that would affect the relationship.
Stockalone Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I'm thinking of going even shorter after awhile and I don't know how he will react to it. Well, tell him that you are thinking about going even shorter and ask him what he thinks about it. When I was at the salon, the woman who cut my hair told me that she had once cut off all her hair into a Sharon Stone pixie and had it bleached blond. Her husband was so angry with her that she slept on the couch for a week and he didn't speak to her for another two weeks. Doesn't that sound like a horrible overreaction? It IS her hair, after all! Not talking to her for two weeks is very harsh, but I can sort of relate. Short hair on women is one on my pet peeves. I don't like it at all and if a girlfriend had gotten a Sharon Stone pixie, I would have been very unhappy. I wouldn't have made her sleep on the couch though, but I would have told her in no uncertain terms that I really don't like it and to please grow it longer again. As a favour for me. A bob like you described would be okay, although I prefer longer hair, but a pixie would definitely be too short for my taste. Almost all women I have been with, wanted me to be clean shaven. I very much doubt that they would have been happy with me growing a beard and looking like bigfoot's little cousin. I compromised and shaved and I would hope that a gf would compromise too and not cut her hair too short. What would you do, LSers? Do you think you would be upset with your partner if they had something done that made them look really different, like a drastic haircut, a new haircolor, a new makeup look, a different clothing style? What is the "rule" in things like this? Should you get input from your partner before going ahead with something like that? What would you do if your partner got upset about your new look? Yes, I would be upset about a haircut (and possibly other changes as well) that I don't like, especially when I have already expressed a dislike for it before.
Trialbyfire Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 As a rule of thumb, anything I do to my body, is my decision to make. He can either take it or leave. The reverse also holds true. Say I were to go nuts and pierce every body part. He has full rights to say, "I don't like it, change it back". Of course I would say NO, therefore he can walk, if it's that meaningful to him. The reverse also holds true. If he were to get dreadlocks and be unwilling to change back, I could also walk.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 It's your body, your hair, your look. If you want to consider his preferences, that's your business. If you don't want to, that's also your business. I think most people would rather have a partner with her (or his) own identity than a puppet who simply lives to please her partner.
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