Father of my child, NC for almost one year but recently he's been puttin on the moves

[LovieDove24]

The father of my child and I have been spending a lot of time together over the last few weeks due to mutual family functions. With multiple weekends spent together sleeping in the same room (he on the floor, I on the bed), we started reconnecting and I'm feeling the love I buried so deep resurfacing. He's been flirting, calling me over to watch movies at his house, took me out for breakfast one morning, and surprised me with my fave kind of ice cream today when he dropped off our daughter. All this after nine months of nothing. We haven't spoken about anything more than our daughter since I gave him an ultimatum nine months ago.

 

My problem is yesterday and today he said two really ballsy statements, especially considering all the flirt he's been dishing out. The first ballsy statement was "That blonde girl you work with is really cute, is she single?" and the second was "You were never really my 'type' per se." AND HERE I AM all in la-la lovers land again, seeing some light at the end of the tunnel and he goes and says this s.h.i.t. I believe he says these things for one of two reasons: 1) He truly has no feelings for me or 2) He does have re-surfacing feelings but is covering them up because thats what he does best. He's called the king of poker face. Any first impressions, LS?

[sally4sara]

He thinks that because you carried his seed, you're an easy pick up during the dry spells of his sex life.

That old belief that women cannot say no to the father of their children because all women need the dad to stick around no matter how unreliable or lacking in integrity the he may be. He is hoping the biological ties will prevent him from having to put any work into bedding you again. Since you haven't caved yet, he is trying to bait you with jealousy (the comment about the blonde) and trigger insecurities within you (the comment about you being not really his type). This is all tips given to men on the pick-up artist sites. Don't fall for it. Your kid needs a strong role model in you and falling for this triflin' crap won't help you achieve this.

 

Don't sleep with him; he will take off again. File for child support if you haven't already.