rosboy Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 spoke with my ex yesterday and we had a long conversation for over one hour. She knew that I had contacted her new man although I did tell.He said what I said that I was polite and wanted him to step aside whilst we tried to thrash things out. How could she consider leaving me and losing 6 years when he was on the sidelines. Well at least he told her and its funny he calls her exactly the names I used for her-like hun and petal all thats sort of thing. I guess he could not have known about these names unless of course she told him-there you go-trying to recreate me in him!!!! Anyway I told her she can contact me anytime and she has all my numbers and contact details. She has asked me to respect her decision and give her time and space. I have no choice and I suppose NC will have to operate for the time being. I will of course stick to itbut it is hard. She met him whilst having a break from me and he seems to wit her all the time but it has happened so quickly- Do you think I should contact her after 6 years or wait and see-chnace of reconcilliation perhaps? we were together for 6 years any help please? What should I do?
TaraMaiden Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 First of all, stop posting multiple threads. It really is not necessary, and is guaranteed to bot irritate regulars and moderators. Honest. Just a bit of friendly advice here. Secondly, find a member called Caliguy. Thgirdly, read the first link in his signature. Fourthly - FOLLOW IT TO THE ABSOLUTE LETTER- !! And then - leave her alone, and give her the space she's asked for. I hate to be the bearer of bad tidings but - if you're going to wait for her to come back - you'll be in for a very long wait.......
ON MY OWN Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 Space is just what it is space. From my experience as well as talkin to a counselor space creates a barrier normally. If it were me I would try and save it. Possibly suggest seeing a counselor a handful of times atleast that specializes in these particular issues. If is is truly worth it she will gladly go as well as she will see she is truly important and that the relationship is of a priority to you. If it were me I wouldnt let 6 years go that easily. I would not let go without a fight. Space only creates time for you both to meet someone as well which can create more pain as well as complicate the situation. It is worth it to not lose this as you have quite a past together and I personally would not let it slip away that easy. Best of luck to you and may your heart mend from the pain in the way that is best for you and treat yourself the way you deserve, you are a great person, and dont forget that you are the great person weather it works out for you or not.:D
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