rosboy Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I spoke with my ex yesterday and we had a long conversation for over one hour. She knew that I had contacted her new man although I did tell.He said what I said that I was polite and wanted him to step aside whilst we tried to thrash things out. How could she consider leaving me and losing 6 years when he was on the sidelines. Well at least he told her and its funny he calls her exactly the names I used for her-like hun and petal all thats sort of thing. I guess he could not have known about these names unless of course she told him-there you go-trying to recreate me in him!!!! Anyway I told her she can contact me anytime and she has all my numbers and contact details. She has asked me to respect her decision and give her time and space. I have no choice and I suppose NC will have to operate for the time being. I will of course stick to itbut it is hard. She met him whilst having a break from me and he seems to wit her all the time but it has happened so quickly- Do you think I should contact her after 6 years or wait and see-chnace of reconcilliation perhaps? we were together for 6 months any help please? What should I do?
Excellent Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 What good will it do to let yourself live in limbo for 6 years? (or is that a typo?)? It will drive you nuts.. Go NC, and start to move one. Accept that it is over. Yes, it is hard, but it is even harder when you let that heartbroken feeling linger on purpose.
Author rosboy Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 No-I was with her 6 years and just split- sorry typo!
TaraMaiden Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 You've posted yet another new thread about this. I've replied in that one! Good luck..... Be strong - and - Let go......
Mike B. Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 You contacted her new boyfriend? That is a great big "No No!" Never ever do this! You are not her husband. Although she was with you for 6 years, you have no right to do this. Not only is this poor judgment and taste, you will now be seen as the crazy and obsessive ex boyfriend. This will certainly not help your cause. I am sorry to say this but you have definitely dug yourself into a deeper hole, have pushed your ex even further from you, and now have recruited another ally for her against you. I know you didn't not mean any harm but your were out of order, my friend. She will now say to her new boyfriend "you see how crazy he is! That is why I had to leave him!" and it will seem justified. The new boyfriend will not take you side. He will take the side that benefits him and the side of his new girlfriend. Why should he care about you? Now that he see that you are making a big fuss over her, she will look like a even greater prize through his eyes and he will be even more unwilling to let her go. Leave him out of this and accept that your relationship has come to an end. They are together now and you will have to move on. Do not drag her new guy into this. No contact. None what-so-ever. If she desire, she will contact you but don't count on it. In six year, you may be married to someone with 6 children and houses and she may be as well.
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