amythan Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Let's say you have sex with a friend and it turns that you got pregnant but you do not want to go ahead with it ... Would you tell him ? I mean not to preassure him or something like that but just to share because you need to talk but you do not want to tell anyone else. Is this appropiate ??
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Eeeggghhhhh. *cringe* I'd be hesitant to say anything to him about it. I really would. And while that may sound cruel, if I hooked up with a guy with no intention of starting a relationship, I don't think he should have any input on what I do with my own body past that sexual encounter. And especially with him being a "friend"...if you don't want to forever alter the relationship (if it hasn't been irreparably damaged just from the sex), it's best to not bring a kid into the equation.
Author amythan Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 If finally this turns to be true .. and i have good reasons to think it could (or perhaps just overreacting) i do not know what i should do. I am sure i do not want kids and i also know this is not a relationship situation but should i really go through alone when both were irresponsible (drunk) enough to arrive here ? Would this be seen as a last attempt to be close to him ? And believe me this would not be the case. I think i am kind of scared but i am very stressed and not sure how i would deal with that.
Shock Me Sane Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Are you completely oblivious about his views on abortion? I mean, if you think he'll support you in your decision, I would tell him. That way you at least have someone (who is equally responsible) to go through the ordeal with. If you know that you have opposing viewpoints and it will be a huge issue, don't tell him.
BUENG1 Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Let's say you have sex with a friend and it turns that you got pregnant but you do not want to go ahead with it ... Would you tell him ? I mean not to preassure him or something like that but just to share because you need to talk but you do not want to tell anyone else. Is this appropiate ?? If you've made your decision to abort, then I don't see why you would tell him. It's your decision. Obviously if your not going to abort you should tell him imo.
Author amythan Posted June 14, 2009 Author Posted June 14, 2009 Yes, i know it is my decision but even if i am 100% sure it does not mean it is easy. I do not want to discuss with other people, no one knows i slept again with him again after all the drama we got in the past. The last thing i need is give explanations or justify myself, i am already feeling awful and stupid enough. I would like to have someone to talk and don't go through this alone. But not sure if it would be a good idea to tell him as he can misunderstand everything. But perhaps what he can think does not matter ..
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