o0Synn0o Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 ive been with this girl for 4yrs, we did have our ups n downs, we have also broken up officially twice. to make it short the first time she broke up with me was because she started seeing some one else. That someone else ended up playing using her and now she returned to me and we got back together. now it is not until recently at night her phone would go off with texts messages, phone calls and id always ask "who is that" or "why are u gettin calls so late? who the hell culd be callin within 1 to about 3 am?" she always answer "oh i dont care"......so i recently got in engaged with her we were talkin about plans of moving out living together and all the good stuff when all of a sudden we its seemed as if she lost interest in me...? she then says we need a break im going to stay home from now on because im not risking my job staying over your place. she told me she would see me only during the weekends...but i told her during the weekends your always partying..how the F would i see u. So then that lead to an official break up ...i took my ring back , she wanted to keep it...and about 2weeks later she tells me she with her new man and not to call her...? So its like wow....what a bitch eh?
Thomas X Forever Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Oh, how I could have a field day with people like her. Research four things, enjoy. Narcissistic Personality Disorder Borderline Personality Disorder Antisocial Personality Disorder Histrionic Personality Disorder aka, the cluster B disorders. Enjoy.
northstar1 Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Oh, how I could have a field day with people like her. Research four things, enjoy. Narcissistic Personality Disorder Borderline Personality Disorder Antisocial Personality Disorder Histrionic Personality Disorder aka, the cluster B disorders. Enjoy. The way you dispense the diagnosis of personality disorders on this board, are you a certified psychiatrist or psychologist?
ON MY OWN Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 What is up with this? Are all the ppl on this site the respectful ones and the ones we have dated the disrespectful ones? How can anyone who has half a heart treat ppl with such a level of disrespect? I couldnt live with myself treating ppl as they are disposable and not ever working on problems? Isnt life full of problems, isnt that what its all about going through the good and the not so good with someone? What has this world come to with so many insensitive ppl? I have my own situation that I have been working past that I would lie if I was saying it was near easy. Look it up under breakups, "Trading one engagement for another" and see what your adive to me would be. Might make you think. Your a great person who doesnt deserve to play second fiddle. You will meet someone who sees the beautiful person that you are inside and be just as beautiful back!!!
Taucher Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 What is up with this? Are all the ppl on this site the respectful ones and the ones we have dated the disrespectful ones? How can anyone who has half a heart treat ppl with such a level of disrespect? I don't think it's a case of people on here being the respectful ones. I think most people on here have been dumped by people they love and care for deeply (myself included) and that is why we all share this pain (and why we are on this site in the first place). However, truth is, if they don't feel the same, then it does not feel so bad for them. For example, I had an 8 month relationship years ago and I was not feeling it, I had nagging doubts etc. So I ended it with her. She did all the begging stuff (that I have been doing with my recent ex!) but my feelings were not there, so I sort of didn't care. I didn't want to hurt her but I couldn't understand why she felt like this about me, as I was over her the minute I said goodbye. It's difficult to understand how someone can be SO attracted to you when you don;t feel the same way. On the other hand, I think that there are a certain number of cases where the dumper just doens't know WHAT THEY WANT. See Wow123's post about the number of dumped people who have been dumped minutes, hours and days after their loved ones say how much they love them, let's get married etc. People are complicated, and I think as far as the dumper is concerned, there is a lot of self-protection going on. I am sure it happens where someone dumps their bf or gf, and they regret it, but they carry on being cold because they feel like they have to go through with it. Other dumpers probably DO have genuine issues which are outside of the relationship, but they end up taking out all their frustration with their issues on their relationships, and they need time to realise this (this is what I think is going on with my gf - I might be wrong). Overall, it is very confusing and people are complicated.
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