mogul Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 -(might seem bitter, just bummed out and confused) WOW, so many days later and no call. I'm contemplating just leaving with my pride some what in tact. To the people who have seen my other posts, more than likely she is somewhat interested but is not going to act on it and this would be the end of it? I would look way pathetic if i was to just contact her one last time or does it seem like she just wants me to keep pushing and give her a reason? Thing is that she always seems interested and has yet to "give me a hint that shes not interested" (except for this time kind of) and her actions make it seem like she is interested but just keeps me lingering around. What to do? Once again im rationalizing, but maybe if i was to contact her one last time and give her an ultimatum along the lines of "I'd like to get to know you better but let me know if you're not interested so i don't waste my time or yours and i would stop contacting you". You'd be surprised how many times it has worked for me and a complete game changer. Would it probably go well or just look stupid? She knows i have other options and always sees me in the company of differnt girls and always have a differnt date to the company functions and seminars as well as her friends always smiling and talking good about me to her. -If worse comes to worst, i would atleast like to know where it went wrong or why she is not interested. How can i go about doing that? I was thinking something along the lines of just being blunt and stating the obvious "i know you find me attractive and know that you would have alot of fun with me and compatible, but whats holding you back"? I REALLY am so confused because EVERYONE (her mutual friend included) says that i am so much better than her current bf in all aspects and that we would be compatible and make a cute couple and shes also in to the finer/material things where as he is just a pushover and a very bland lifestyle (no clubbing/partying)? -for the women, if a situation arises similar to mines and you were the girl, what would you do? maybe im giving myself too much credit, but she does want to really get to know me better (always agreeing to go and blushing when i told her i was interested in her and would like to get dinner) but scared she would fall for me or let it get out of hand and cant control herself (thus rescheduling shortly before the meetings were supposed to happen) and gives herself time to think by always rescheduling right away and keeping me lingering and would suggest days and laugh at my corny jokes? Thanks..
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Seriously, dude? whats holding you back"? current bf It has been spelled out for you. Why is "she has a boyfriend" not a good enough reason for her to not jump your bones or fall at your feet and worship your greatness?
mkmlaw Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 While I have not gone through this, I have a female friend who has done the exact same thing this girl is apparently doing to you (based on some of your other posts). My friend would flirt incessantly with a guy at work, and even go out for dinner and drinks with him when her live-in boyfriend was traveling. She never even told the guy from the office she had a boyfriend, although other people apparently let him in on it (for some reason he didn't seem to believe them). Regardless, it is now two years later. My friend MARRIED her then live-in boyfriend, and they are happy as clams. She just loved the attention the other guy briefly provided (and I suppose the challenge of the chase -- which she was no longer getting from her long-term relationship). But she never had any intention of leaving her boyfriend. Move on. Seriously. It sounds 100% like this girl is using you for the attention, which is likely flattering and exciting. But she has a boyfriend, who it doesn't sound like she is leaving anytime soon. Plus, while probably flattering to her, the more you pursue her, the less of a challenge (and therefore the less desirable of a catch) you will become.
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