RosyDay Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I am in agony. I am 43 years old and my boyfriend left me. He was the only man I ever really loved. We had an argument and he just left and went to another woman. It's been almost a month. I cry and I cry. I am in agony. I can't handle how much this hurts. I don't think I can love again...it is too painful to go through again.
drivesmecrazy3 Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 dont feel bad. its normal to feel that way for awhile. You just have to keep believing in yourself and that you'll find someone better. Everything in life happens for a reason. There is someone in this would that will care and love you just like they should. They are there, you just have to find them, and someday you will. They will love you for who you are, and never look past that.
Exit Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 You just need time. It's been two months for me and I still feel like I never want a relationship again. Set some goals for yourself. Get a hobby or something to occupy your mind. If there is something you wanted to do in your life that you've never been able to do, start pursuing it. I was working out like a mad man before I met my gf. Then it was a year and a half of fast food and watching TV together. Now that she is gone I am back to eating healthy and exercising. This is just my example, you need to find something that means something to you. You are a complete person with or without him, you need to remember that. Nobody completes you. Nobody else is responsible for your happiness. If you feel it is completely impossible to be happy alone, you need to examine why you feel that way.
TheBigCow Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 RosyDay I really feel for you. Having someone you love abruptly exit your life like this can feel like someone just died... except that no one else cares that they're dead, making it harder. You WILL get better in time, you will meet someone else. Do not feel bad for your emotions, they are normal and healthy! The others are right, you will feel better if you start doing something that makes you feel like you're moving forward, but remember making it through each day when something like this happens is a step in the right direction. If you honestly feel like you can't handle it, find family and friends (if you aren't already surrounding yourself with them, which you should!), talk to a doctor maybe, talk to a councilor, call up a depression help line, post here, email or call or txt an old friend, go outside and go for a walk, send me a private message... just do something. These things may not have a lasting affect but you need to keep pushing through this! I'll be hoping for you
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