DarkestDreams Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 The title is pretty much self-explanatory. So LS'ers...How much effort do you put in your appearance when you show up in public? And do you find that presenting yourself in a more or less neat manner is a question of self-esteem or respect towards yourself and others?
mogul Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Extremely important. In my opinion, how i look and present myself to the world is a representation of what i am about. It does depend on the situation however. I always have to be well groomed and clean. My clothes always have to be dry cleaned and wrinkle free. Occasionally though, on the weekends i tend to skip shaving and go for the stubbly bum it look (but still clean, neat and fashionable if that makes sense).
one goal Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Would it be a good idea when I go to class to wear a polo shirt, instead of a tshirt? I had a friend tell me thats what he does now.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Depends on the setting, really (well...and my mood). I'm a comfort person. I used to just prefer to be "take me as I am," but have started in the past year to start wearing make-up more often and with this job (started in November), I do my hair more often (rather than just pulling it back). If I put more effort into how I look, I FEEL better, but it's disappointing to me that there's pretty much zero difference in how people treat me/react to me. I might feel like the freaking bomb (and I'm not ugly), but get ignored. Have had several people tell me I don't need make-up, or have made the comment that I look the same either way. The comment makes no sense because I think I look tired without make-up. That makes it hard to make an effort sometimes. My mood affects whether I put in effort, too. If I'm tired or really just don't care...then I pull my hair back, no make-up. In my day-to-day dress, just hanging out or maybe going to like a movie...something casual...then I dress casual and no make-up. Make-up is generally reserved for work or special occasions.
Samari Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Oh I always have to make sure I'm looking clean-cut. Not only for my girlfriend, but for all the other ladies that can't have me.
nobody's girl Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Hair combed, clothes clean with no visible stains or smells, shoes match. Other than that I dress for my own comfort. Unless going out for dinner/dancing/whatever, my attire outside of work is a t shirt, shorts/sweats/jeans, sneakers and usually hair in a ponytail and a ball cap. I'm just not the type to put on tight, uncomfortable clothes for the happiness of others. This is who I am and if people want to judge me on my appearance, then they're probably not the type of person I want to hang out with. I know not to show up at a wedding or funeral in sweats and a ball cap or anything like that. But I just don't see the point of getting all dressed up just to go out and run errands, etc.
BlueEyedGirl Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I really put in an effort into making myself look good for work because I have/had crush on my boss I wash/blowdry my long hair every day, put on full make-up, do my nails, put on a bit of fake tanner and dress in nice tight fitting clothes. If I am going to a bar or a party, I also do the same. But when I am going for walks, shopping etc, I don't wear any make-up and just jeans and t-shirt. People definetly treat me better when I have made an effort. Men look at me more, shop assistants are more helpful and I just get noticed. But I CBF doing it all the time.
Lucky555 Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I put a lot of effort in how i look. It depends on the occasion but usually if I go out its nice outfits which accentuate my figure, white teeth, sometimes I use fake tanner if I really want to (depends on how i feel), nice shoes, hair neat, makeup, all that stuff. At home I wear jeans and a t-shirt. I wear clothes I don't mind spilling drinks on lol. For work, dates, or going out with friends, I always make an extra effort to look good. It depends on the setting of how you dress though too. If its a beach, city, club, or classroom setting. Different attire for each setting because you have to consider climate and you don't want to be overly formal or under formal.
boldjack Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 DD, it depends on what you mean. I try to be dressed and groomed ,to fit the occasion, but I am not a "slave to fashion". Fashion trends are to me a form of coercion and a marketing ploy, so I ignore them.
tigressA Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I take a lot of pride in my appearance. I like to wear things that make me feel and look typically feminine--dresses, skirts, cute tops, shoes/sandals with heels. I am comfortable in those kinds of things, but I also love my jeans and plain t-shirts/tank tops. I NEVER, EVER go out with sweatpants or a sweatshirt; I cannot stand Uggs or Crocs and I will not wear sneakers unless they are required for a certain occasion. I try to keep my skin looking good so I can go without foundation/concealer makeup because I hate it. I prefer looking as natural as possible when it comes to makeup.
Trialbyfire Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I dress to please myself and my mood. It's usually a slight notch below what's required and sometimes, as a statement, definitively so. For example, if we're going to a chi-chi five star for dinner, if it's a stuffy place, I sometimes wear jeans! Most often I dress for the occasion such as for a client meeting, a well-tailored suit and full makeup. But...I'm always clean with minimal makeup, no matter what the occasion.
GorillaTheater Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I dress to please myself and my mood. It's usually a slight notch below what's required and sometimes, as a statement, definitively so. For example, if we're going to a chi-chi five star for dinner, if it's a stuffy place, I sometimes wear jeans! Every time I find myself utterly put out with TBF, she'll post something with which I wholeheartedly agree with. Of course, with 879 posts/day, the odds are in her favor. I definitely dress down, probably out of a strong contrarian streak (I'm at work in jeans as I type this). But at the same time, I am prideful of my appearance. I'm an older guy, but still in good shape, have my hair (and most of it isn't gray. Yet.), and reasonably good looking. And yes, rightly or wrongly, I do find myself taking pride in that.
donnamaybe Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I'm with TBF on sometimes being a bit of a rebel RE: attire as regards other people's expectations, but when it could impact my work or colleagues, of course I dress properly for the occasion. One thing, though, is I make sure and take really good care of my teeth, skin and hair. Exercise also keeps you in good shape and imparts a healthy glow. In the summer I pay particular attention to making certain that my feet are nicely pedicured, decalloused, lotioned up, toenails polished, etc. since it's sandal weather. That way, regardless of what I'm wearing, I'll always look my best.
Trialbyfire Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Every time I find myself utterly put out with TBF, she'll post something with which I wholeheartedly agree with. Of course, with 879 posts/day, the odds are in her favor. I definitely dress down, probably out of a strong contrarian streak (I'm at work in jeans as I type this). But at the same time, I am prideful of my appearance. I'm an older guy, but still in good shape, have my hair (and most of it isn't gray. Yet.), and reasonably good looking. And yes, rightly or wrongly, I do find myself taking pride in that.I rarely agree with you GT, so don't let this once go to your head!
bac Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 DD, it depends on what you mean. I try to be dressed and groomed ,to fit the occasion, but I am not a "slave to fashion". Fashion trends are to me a form of coercion and a marketing ploy, so I ignore them. If you want to get laid with the right crowd like beautiful women you should respect their major values. For many beautiful ladies the important attraction is your style: clothes, hair style, shoes and whatever else you put on yourself. It is especially important if you are not very good-looking because the style will greatly compensate bad looks. From my observation in reality men who are not really good-looking prefer do not look at the mirror and do not care for style at all.
Lyssa Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Depends on my mood but always clean and presentable. Hardly wear make up unless to meet clients or out to the club.
Sam Spade Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 . I NEVER, EVER go out with sweatpants or a sweatshirt; I cannot stand Uggs or Crocs and I will not wear sneakers unless they are required for a certain occasion. Call me :love:. I'm into rebelious clothing, and ironically these days it means dresing up with a nice suit, nice shirt, nice shoes. A very classy f.u.c.k. you to all the slobs I have to deal with every day. Also, I like to be schisophfrenic in regards to dress. While on most days I'll show up in said suit, on others I'll swing in the completely opposite direction and show up in workwear. I can go from James Dean to Cary Grant in under 5 seconds . Either way, i don't expend too much energy on clothing, but take pride in following the basic, simple rules of dress, that fathers apparently no longer teach their sons. (Which pisses me off, especially given that I was raised by a single mom ). CLothing definitely affects my perception of others - if you can't even cover your genitalia properly, how am I supposed to trust that you can be relied upon to be able to do well anything at all?
spookie Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I wouldn't say I take "pride" in my appearance; nor do I attempt to appear clean-cut or neat; but I take care of myself, and I get a kick out of wearing funky clothes that complement whatever sinister mood I'm in, which I think some people mistake for a sense of fashion. There's nothing quite like re-discovering you're dressed like a clown on your jog around the burbs. Or looking down and seeing sequined purple shorts, just as you're feeling homicidal at the Olive Garden. but more often my clothes are legitly cute, and I get compliments.
boldjack Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 BAC, Oh, really. I have usually found that an attractive person will stand out from the "right crowd", with out resorting to fashion trickery. I , until my marriage, had great success with VERY beautiful Ladies, Models, pageant winners, etc most of these women felt that a handsome man, did not need embellishment. If a man takes as much care about his appearance as a woman, I would question his masculinity, not his fashion sense.
Girlygal Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 i always dress "cleanly". I cant stand it when i see someone in public in PJ's with uncomber dirty hair. It just screams " I HATE MYSELF". i dont mean that i dress in pearls everyday, but my hair is washed and managed, my clothes are clean and neat and i take some time to slap a bit of make up. Hell today im in blue jeans with holes (bought that way, i dont know why?!?!?!) a tank top and a Penguins Jersey (game 7 stanley cup playoffs tonight!!!) and flip flops. and i feel pretty darn cute!
Trialbyfire Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 BAC, Oh, really. I have usually found that an attractive person will stand out from the "right crowd", with out resorting to fashion trickery. I , until my marriage, had great success with VERY beautiful Ladies, Models, pageant winners, etc most of these women felt that a handsome man, did not need embellishment. If a man takes as much care about his appearance as a woman, I would question his masculinity, not his fashion sense.IMO, anyone who consistently overdresses, is trying waaayyyy too hard to impress others.
IcemanJB Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I showed up to work last Friday with shorts, a t-shirt, and flip flops. Sure enough, that was the day the president of the company decided to visit our office (it's a very small company, maybe 10-15 people, but still). He goes "shorts, huh? ah, don't worry, you should see what the girls in our office wear" hahaha Other days I'll show up in nice pants, nice shoes and a button down shirt. idk, I guess it's what I feel like wearing. If I'm going out with friends, I'll wear a collared shirt of some sort 99% of the time. If it's Saturday and I'm out running errands or something, I honestly don't give a rat's ass what my hair looks like or what I'm wearing. I know I clean up well so who cares!? The last girl I dated, the first time we truly started hanging out together without anyone else, I had just gotten back from a trip with my buddies, and I was wearing gym shorts, a white t-shirt, and had messed up hair. Obviously that didn't hinder anything there. All in all, I like to look good, but don't make a huge deal out of it by any means.
Kamille Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 All in all, I like to look good, but don't make a huge deal out of it by any means. Ditto here (minus all the mentions of gym shorts). I love having time to pick out outfits and do my hair, but if I'm in a rush, I'll put on a nice clean shirt, a good pair of jeans and I'm out the door. Plus, I like diversity. I can pull off stunning and sexy just like I can pull off cute and sporty. Basically, my sense of style is akin to "keep 'em guessing". I've mentioned here very often that I find people respond more to my smile then they do to my general appearance.
You'reasian Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 The title is pretty much self-explanatory. So LS'ers...How much effort do you put in your appearance when you show up in public? And do you find that presenting yourself in a more or less neat manner is a question of self-esteem or respect towards yourself and others? It depends on the circumstances. If you are going to an important event or in a special social occasion, one would dress accordingly and impeccably. Random public events - accordingly and smartly. For instance, if I'm going to watch a hard-rock concert, how would I dress? A) Black Italian-made suit, red neck tie, well-polished cloroframs, briefcase, well shaven. B) Nuthin' but peacock feathers! C) Slightly worn jeans, A semi-tight T-shirt of the band performing, 3-days of facial growth, rugged boots D) Hawaiian shirt, khaki shorts, sandals, lei
Shock Me Sane Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 If I'm going out in public and there's even the slightest chance that I will see someone I know, I have to do my hair and make-up. Because running into friends or co-workers or whoever looking like I just rolled out of bed is embarrassing. I don't think wardrobe is important if you're just going out to the store. You can still look hot in jeans and a t-shirt. Sweatpants, no. Going out on a date or to a club, I look my absolute best and take a lot of pride in being one of the hottest girls in the room. It's a nice feeling.
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