ruggy Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Okay. So this woman e-mailed me on Monday. I responded and we went back four or five e-mails. I then replied yesterday and suggested we move on to chatting either online or via telephone. She gave me her Yahoo IM handle. We chatted for about a half hour or so. Asked if she would like to talk on the phone. She said ok and gave me her cell. I was thinking on calling on Saturday, like early afternoon. How does that sound? Don't want to look too desperate. She's 27, and I am early 30's.
BCCA Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I wouldnt wait that long. If she gave you her number today, call today or tomorrow. Waiting is really kind of a silly game that accomplishes nothing. Today would probably be best. That way, youre not giving the impression that you have nothing going on Friday night. See if shes up for coffee/lunch on Sunday, and enjoy the rest of your weekend
Sinnamon Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I agree with BCCA, if I gave a guy my number I'd want him to call either that day or following day at the latest. Anything later than that would make me think a) he's playing the waiting game, or b) he's not that into me...both of which would surely make my interest fade. Just don't sound desperate on the phone or pretend to be "cool" either.
Author ruggy Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 I agree with BCCA, if I gave a guy my number I'd want him to call either that day or following day at the latest. Anything later than that would make me think a) he's playing the waiting game, or b) he's not that into me...both of which would surely make my interest fade. Just don't sound desperate on the phone or pretend to be "cool" either. Ahh... So no Rico Suave?
BCCA Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Ahh... So no Rico Suave? LOL I think its best to keep it short and sweet, say no more than 10 minutes. Make small talk for a couple minutes, ask her out for a date a few days later, and then get off the phone.
MissViolet Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Yes, call her today or tomorrow..I wouldn't wait longer than 3 days.
Author ruggy Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 LOL I think its best to keep it short and sweet, say no more than 10 minutes. Make small talk for a couple minutes, ask her out for a date a few days later, and then get off the phone. I was going to ask her to do something this weekend. Ask her if she's busy this weekend? Depending on what she says, I would proceed. If she says no she's not, then proceed to set something up. If she is, say, ok not an issue and say goodbye.
BCCA Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I was going to ask her to do something this weekend. Ask her if she's busy this weekend? Depending on what she says, I would proceed. If she says no she's not, then proceed to set something up. If she is, say, ok not an issue and say goodbye. Sounds good. Maybe dont be in a rush to get off the phone as soon as she says shes busy, and feel out how interested she would be in doing something another time.
Author ruggy Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 It was a good call, I think. Some of my jokes were a bit corny, but she was laughing. We're meeting Saturday night. I asked her if she wanted to meet up or I should pick her up. Since it was the first date, I thought it was safer to meet her there. She agreed. As I was about to say good bye, she was playing with her dogs and we started talking about her dogs, family, etc. We talked about 45 minutes. May had been babbling a bit, all in a joking manner though. I just did not want to sound rude or nervous. My comedy usually works, though some people might not get it 100% of the time. I guess I'll see how it goes, but did I fck up on not jumping on picking her up?
DarkestDreams Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 The rule of thumb would be always to offer. I doubt many women would take you up on it, given that it's a first date and there are a lot of weirdos out there, but the offer is always appreciated. Sounds like your conversation went good, don't dwell on it. Have a good date!
Author ruggy Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 I guess I'll see tomorrow. Though, she looked at my profile again this morning. Not sure if that is a good sign. And, surprisingly, she did not get two of my jokes. Hmm...
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