Dont no what is going on

[Adi]

It all started 5 years ago, just came out of a four year relonship, i was very gutted at the time but my ex was not right for me any way so i kept thinking that which got me though, one day i met a girl while i was out walking she was just 17 and i was 22 i no the age diffrene was not good but we just clicked, it was great we started too see each other all the time never fell out and i was so so happy, we would often call each other our soulmates and i new she was the one. After 2 years of dating i moved into a bigger home and she lived with me, we got a dog did some travling and just had fun, i could tell her anyting and she was so loyal, she dint drink much was career minded and we loved the same things, but then i starrted too get more pressure at work and it made me a bit snappy but i was not too bad, but one day i returned home from work , too find her dad there loading her stuff up she came over to me and said she needed too move back in with her mom and dad has i was being too moody, she said we are not spliting up just not living together, i was ok about it dint want too have a go, and a day later she phonned too say she has made a mistake could she come back, we decided to keep things how there were and it was really good again she would come down on the weekend, we would go out watch TV and just do all normal stuff, then in Jan 2009 she moved back in it was fine at first but she became very messy i told her to try to be more tidy plus i would be a bit boring with what i wached on TV, we went away for a weekend and had loads of fun came back in March and a week later i snapped at her for using all of the hot water and told her too move out she went in a mood and went on facebook, two days later she said i will move out if you like i said no it was just a silly argument but a day later she came back and said we need to talk, she said i am moving into a house share with a women down the road and we are over, i asked for her reasons, she told me i had not comited to her and i went on about stuff it sounded like a excuse, any way i had a couple of days with her until she moved out and we got talking i sain what if we got engaged and that made her happy. She still moved out because she signed the contract but we were still together, i remeber thinking in a month we will be living together again (how wrong) she just became distant i would phone and she would not annser then just text me two hours later to say sorry i missed your call i was busy goodnight, and she was just here and there all the time i felt like i was loosing her so i phonned one day we had a chat then she said she wanted to finish i said ok then later that night she text me too go round so i did she was crying and we got back together but it seem that we would just end up having big chats all the time then she would go cold a day or two later, i got her a big ring we went away for the night and things were ok for a week, then she went cold she would come to mine just look board then go first chance she had, in the end she phonned on the thursday morning about two weeks ago and sain i can not see you all weekend i am going out with my mates, well i was not happy not because she was going out but i new girlfriends dont do that when they are happy, so i had a go the next day she phoned and asked for me to meet her at work so i did, i got a letter saying basicly she is sorry but needs a clean break i was just tied by this point so gave in but we text each on the Monday and again on the Tuesday she said she was missing me and was sad so i phonned her we spoke but it just went bad got into all what was wrong, then she told me she had sex on the Friday night with a guy she new on facebook but she said it dint mean anything, i told her i had met a girl on Sat which i had, then she said she had starrted to hang around with a old friend and they were getting on well she thinks she may start somthing, i was gutted but played it cool. on the wen i had a nice bath and though well i need to just cut my ties now so text her too say thanks for a good 5 years the end was a bit rocky but no hard feelings and good luck, she replied and said i am crying now but thank you, and then straight away she texted just done a prency test it is negative i am sad, i got my hopes up and thought why is she sad if she dont want too be with me then we flurted a little, by now i was unsure too how she felt but on the fri i rang her about a domsic matter we got chatting and it was fun then we text after, then the next day i sent a text saying look i still love you i am not looking to get together but how about meeting up has friends to see where it goes, she replied and said i would like that i aint promsing any thing but we could go for a drink next week and she put at the end she had been feeling like crap with kisses, we dint make it to fri but met the next day we had sex then went for a drive at first she was very strange telling me how she has had fun and she looked diffrent i stopped the car and she said do you still love me, i said i thought i did but you have changed so much then she broke down and said i thought you was meeting me too get back together she then said i made that up i have had a crap week and you are the oniy person i have ever had a conaction with, we kissed had sex and went back to hers i stayed the night the next day we text all day and went for a drink after, i got dressed up and so did she we had a great night messed around it was fun then she said do you want to start going out again i asked about this other lad she said the sex dint mean anyting, and her mate is despoably just used him so she was not lonley, we went back to hers had sex but then i wanted to go to bed has i was tyed we snapped at each other a bit cause she wanted to stay up, anyway the next day she went cold again her text were short and she felt distant till about two o clock then she said she loves me she aint going to mess things up again and meet her at 8 so i did but all she did was look at her lap top and lisen to music she was well distant with me then i noticed a pair of blokes pants by her bed, and we talked she told me all about the guy she had sex with and seemed to enjoy telling me then she said we should have waited longer has we dont no if we got back together out of need, i went to work in the morning and she texted me to say sorry i have got big douts and i just dont feel the same way i used too about you. And that is it any one reading this i found my soulmate but i let her go and i think i met her young and people change alot, but can any one tell me why she is so hot and cold please and why did she want too get back with me if she did not love me thanks.

[boogieboy]

You might be able to get help, but you gotta break this up into short paragraphs so its easy for people to read. its just a big square block of letters.

[Exit]

She is hot and cold because she is trying to hang on to something that is already over. Break contact for a while and I don't think she will be back. You are both guilty of spending time together for sex and comfort and nothing more. She wants to walk away but is scared that there is nothing else out there, these are the days when she seems interested in you. Then you have one little fight and she remembers she doesn't want to be in this anymore. I think it is over.