EmptyPromises Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 My ex and I have been split up for about a month and a half. We broke up because we were just fighting too much & I couldn't really trust him. This was not entirely his fault, my last boyfriend cheated on me over four times. I have been a wreck for the entire time we have been broken up and have asked him for another chance on two occasions. He wasn't sure before, but after a few days of no contact, I asked him if he really wanted me to move on and he said no he wants to work things out.I want to get back together with him, but how do we build up trust? How do I stop stressing, worrying, etc about him and what hes up to? I always jump to conclusions and think hes doing the worst thing possible or lying to me . I get frustrated with him very easily but I want all this to change. I love him and want to be with him. I need advice on how to work on my side of the relationship and get this relationship going on a good note.
boogieboy Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 No matter how many times you break up and make up, you have trust issues that you have to work out on your own. Youre making him a victim of your past. Thats not fair to him. He could be a perfectly loyal nice guy and youre equating him with your ex. What you should do is figure out why your ex cheated on you and if it was your fault. If your ex cheated 4 times, I'll assume it wasnt anything you did, he was just a jerk. Im pretty sure your present bf isnt doing anything like your ex did. But just in case, cuz I dont know your situation... You can start here: Did you play head games with your ex? Did you deny him sex before the first cheating offence? Do you think youre not good enough to hold a mans attention? Do you deny certain sex acts to your man? Are you not paying enough attention to your man? What do you think is wrong with you that you think your man wants to get elsewhere? I see you worrying about what hes doing, but not about what YOU might be doing. You really have to face the reality of your insecurities to fix this, it has nothing to do with him.
Author EmptyPromises Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 my ex before my ex was just a sex addict, he had sex with four different girls, had a sex website account where people look for fetish types of sex...i never denied him anything and really thought i was a good girlfriend... my current ex ( if thats who ur asking the questions about) Did you play head games with your ex? were both guilty of that when it came to our breaking up, we would act like we didnt want eachother when we really did Did you deny him sex before the first cheating offence? he didnt cheat...but if your talking about the ex before , i never denied him sex Do you think youre not good enough to hold a mans attention? i do have low confidence, but high self esteem? if that makes sense...i think im a pretty girl i just feel insecure sometimes Do you deny certain sex acts to your man? nope, i enjoy everything lol Are you not paying enough attention to your man? i think i am ...
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