dreamergrl Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 First off, I'm not posting about ME... I'm still on my sabbatical. But a friend of mine had been digging this guy. Someone asked this guy if he was single. He gave the "Kinda, I'm sort of seeing someone" response. Now it was obvious that this person was asking for my friend. She wants to know why such a vague answer. I told her that he probably is seeing someone casually, but may have some interest in her. I'm wondering what everyone else thinks.
carhill Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 He's having sex with her but isn't yet serious about her emotionally. IMO
Jilly Bean Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 It means he's seeing someone else, but he's not that into her, so if he finds someone else better, he'll drop her in a heartbeat.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 It means he's seeing someone else, but he's not that into her, so if he finds someone else better, he'll drop her in a heartbeat. haha...omg, spot-on. That's exactly what I was thinking.
Author dreamergrl Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 He's having sex with her but isn't yet serious about her emotionally. IMO It means he's seeing someone else, but he's not that into her, so if he finds someone else better, he'll drop her in a heartbeat. Do you guys think this reflects on him as a person?
Jilly Bean Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Tough to say. He also *could* legitimately be casually dating someone, in which case, his response was honest and appropriate.
Author dreamergrl Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 I'm always a little skeptical of vague open ended responses myself. I don't know if I'd proceed to take further interest in this guy if it where me. But that's just me.
carhill Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Do you guys think this reflects on him as a person? IMO, he's being a normal man. Keeping his options open unless and until a woman proves her mettle to him. Is he a compatible man for your friend? Unknown. It all depends on the qualities she values in men. Examine her dating pattern. Has it been healthy for her?
Author dreamergrl Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 IMO, he's being a normal man. Keeping his options open unless and until a woman proves her mettle to him. Is he a compatible man for your friend? Unknown. It all depends on the qualities she values in men. Examine her dating pattern. Has it been healthy for her? Ha it's not too far off from mine, only she hasn't been dating lately. A lot of flakes, been treated wrongly here and there. She asked me if I thought she should make a move. I really didn't know what to say to that.
carhill Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I think, if he is interested, he should make a move. That's my instinct here. Your friend evidently has some contact/interaction with him, so that shouldn't be a problem
Author dreamergrl Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 I just had a thought... I could be way way off. But maybe he just said he was kinda seeing someone because he wasn't interested in my friend? I think I'm going to tell her she should just wait for him to make a move. If he is interested, he will, if not, then he wont.
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