redant Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 My bf is working and living 2 hours away. This past month I have seen him every two weeks. Because of mine and his schedules. I have to wait another 2 weeks to see him. Then hopefully it will be every week again which is ok. I feel so angry I want to throw a fit. I feel neglected. He seems to be ok going along. I'm feeling needy. He doesn't seem to worry about a thing. I sense little jealousy from him also. I am tempted alot to catch his attention or flirt or date another. I'm thinking I just need to live my life and not think of him so much. Just enjoy my time without him, but why am I so tempted to get his attention by seeking other men? That is not good. When we are together its fantastic, but I want more or else I'm just tripping being emotional. I told him yesterday that I didnt like the distance and that I blamed him for having to work out there. He didnt say much he said he has to for now. He has said he doesn't like it either in the past. Should I just calm down and enjoy my life time w/o him? Be independent instead of needy?
Bejita463 Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I don't know how much it will help, but I could offer you a piece of information that might give you a different perspective on your situation. I would give up a LOT to be only 2 hours away from my SO. The distance you have might not be easy, but trust me when I say it could be worse. The distance issue you have is very workable, in my opinion.
Author redant Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 I am overreacting. I need to put things in perspective.
Bejita463 Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I am overreacting. I need to put things in perspective. I would tend to think so. If you are having trouble with the distance, you can probably work something out to reduce that distance. It could be as simple as moving closer to each other and further from your jobs, to try and balance your personal and professional lives. It'd probably be easier for one of you to simply close the distance though, if possible.
Author redant Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 I think it will be closed in the future we will be closer. Its just I'm feeling insecure. Should I tell him how I feel? Maybe not. UGH.
Bejita463 Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Should I tell him how I feel? Letting him know the distance is starting to get to you, and that you'd like to work on closing that distance would probably be fine. Unless you were seriously considering acting on sleeping with another guy, bringing that up would probably be a bad plan.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 BF and I are 2 hours apart. Yes, very workable if both people work with it. Due to the lack of jobs in his area, I can't get one up there. And it's TOTALLY not worth him leaving his (and he never would, anyway). So it looks like we're at a stalemate for an indefinite amount of time. Are you able to move to your BF? I would think in a strong relationship, something as simple as a little distance wouldn't get in the way. It's a minimal challenge to deal with in comparison to something really bad that COULD come up. How is your communication when you two are apart? We talk every night and morning. It doesn't always have to be long and drawn out. Usually the morning chat is not that long...maybe like 30-60 mins. The night one is the long one...almost always 1 1/2 - 2 hours. It seems to make the distance easier to deal with. Plus we email. It would be NICE to be in the same town, but with the communication and getting to see him every week, it's workable. Work to bridge the gap if he's important to you. It can be done.
Author redant Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 Hey Soul thanks, yea the communication maybe needs to be worked on. We have never communicated daily from the start. But we communicate often through email or every other day on phone. Which has been ok with me, but now I'm thinking more communication would help me. It's me too that doesn't want to talk everyday. I'm going to keep it in mind maybe I need a bit more now since I dont see him as much. I think it's a temporary thing. I'm just trying to keep my emotions as rational as possible. thanks!
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