Calyapae Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I'm confused about my 'relationship' with a certain guy and I've just joined the forum, so hi! Basically - tyring to condense the situation: I met this guy last October, he asked me out, we had a few dates. Since that first month when I saw him about once a week, we now see each other about once a month. We talk lots on the phone and we can talk for hours sometimes, but we don't see each other that often. Granted, we both have completely opposite schedules, where one of us always seems to be working when the other is free, which means that when we do see each other, it has to be in the evening, so he has been coming over to mine and spending the night. Problem is - I can't work out if I have become just a booty call?! On the surface, it seems that way, but then we meet up for lunch near his work sometimes, and this week, he called me on monday to spend an hour together before we both had to go to work, and then on tuesday he called, we talked on the phone for about 45mins and then he asked me to come over to his (he's asked me over before, but for various reasons thats this first time I've actually been to his place!). We just talked, watched a bit of a movie and then went to bed, no naughty stuff, just sleeping with our arms around each other. That kinda surprised me! Don't get me wrong, I liked it, because maybe it is an indication that he doesn't see me as just sex? But it is very confusing! Another thing is that sometimes when we meet up, it is a little awkward, like we're boith shy as we haven't been together for a while. Like on Tuesday, although we'de been speaking on the phone, chatting away before I saw him, in the 20 minutes or so between when we got off the phone and I met with him in person, we were really quiet together. I laughed and said that it was funny how a few minutes ago I couldn't get a word in edgeways and he smiled and replied that he was just trying to get get a feel for who I was. Sweet? or odd?! What I can't decide, and I'd appreciate some help on!, is whether he is that interested and whether there is anything there. You see, I can't even work out if we are together or not? He says he doesn't see other girls and I'm inclined to believe him, but if someone else asked me out on a date, I don't know if it would be ok to go or not! When we're with each other, it is so lovely, but it is so infrequent, that I just don't really know whats going on. Any insight or suggestions of what to do would be great!
NiceGuy4Ever Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Well it's pretty obvious he is interested in you and in the good way. He sounds like a trusting guy from what you say, and a shy guy which makes things more better in the cherishing the relationship. The one flaw is the infrequency of meeting together and I'm pretty sure it's going to grow into something that will be difficult to surpass. It's up to you if you want to continue but if you do continue you have to find some way to spend more time together. Hope this helps.
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