Author griffinchicken53 Posted June 28, 2009 Author Posted June 28, 2009 being "forced" is true strong a word (i'm not good with words sometimes) anyways, some of my behavior is what causes me to get stuck sitting alone, or with "couples" i take a back seat to things, sort of bring up the rear, last one to walk through the door, hang back while everyone else does the seating arrangements, so i just fit into the last empty space. so that is more my fault.
Author griffinchicken53 Posted July 1, 2009 Author Posted July 1, 2009 that saying "you only get one chance to make a first impression" well alot of people's first impression of me is being depressed, negative and complaining, afraid, etc. can this be undone or do i write these people off and start with new people?
Ronni_W Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 Some of those things are easier to change than others. Complaining and acting negative are things that you can stop immediately...you just need to make a decision to stop. You'll have to stay aware of your thoughts and words, but that's the kind of work that you say you don't bother to try doing. Depression will start to lift when you start to be more positive and optimistic. Fears may take longer to overcome. Start with the easy ones. STOP complaining and acting negative. And start learning/doing some of the other suggestions that you've received in this thread, for self-improvement. Nothing is going to change without you taking charge of your own stuff, making wise decisions and choices, and TAKING ACTION. Nothing is going to get "undone" without your determination and personal effort -- you're just going to end up making a bad first impression on new people.
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