buu Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I’m going through a divorce right now. Wife took the Baby and ran to her mother’s in a neighboring town (60 miles away). She has no reason to run other than to keep the baby to herself (no abuse, no drugs, ect..). She is trying to control when I can see my son even though we have not been to court yet. As of now I can only see him when she feels like it (1-2 hours a week.) I am defently not for these arrangements. She emailed me today saying that I am welcomed to come by her mother’s house any evening to see my son. I smell a setup and I know she wrote that email only because her lawyer told her to. Plus know better than to come by unannounced or to come alone because they will try and create a really bad situation. What would your response be to an email like this? How would you handle this situation?
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Get a lawyer. then file for custody, you make things legal before you walk into a trap. it's not fair she's using your son against you, but depending on the state your in. you have a decent chance for custody but you got to work for it.
Author buu Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 Get a lawyer. then file for custody, you make things legal before you walk into a trap. it's not fair she's using your son against you, but depending on the state your in. you have a decent chance for custody but you got to work for it. Got a lawyer. And I am fighting for coustody. Forward the email to her. she belives her lawyer told her to send the email to give her leverage in court.
Gunny376 Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Agreed get a lawyer quick, fast and in a hurry like ~ serve without mercy. Initially for your visitation rights with the exchange taking place in public ~ WalMart Parking lot is nothing else. Don't go near the in-laws house. (BTW? The difference between in-laws and outlaws, is outlaws know for a fact that they're wanted! ) CB's right, in ninety percent of custody cases, women get custody simply because men do not even attemp to get custody ~ for whatever reason? But in the ten percent of the cases where men do seek custody? They're awarded it 90% of the time. I'd go for it myself. Also just watch some episodes of "Cops" men get taken to jail everyday because some womam starts screaming and shouting, crying her eyes out. She so much as has a mark on her? I'm not saying its not 100% legit, 100% of the time? But, often its not. If she trys pulling a fast one on you? Run outside and commence pounding her head on the sidewalk until you start bleeding, pull the previously staged Louieville slugger out the trunk of your care, smear some blood on it and thrust it into the hands of your STBXW! Hey! "Love Hurts!"
Gunny376 Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Got a lawyer. And I am fighting for coustody. Forward the email to her. she belives her lawyer told her to send the email to give her leverage in court. Forward the e-mail to your lawyer. DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT! EVERYTHING! This is the old, "Why your Honor! (spoken in her best Scrallet O'hara voice while dabbing her crying eyes!) I never told buu he couldn't visit his dear little child! anytime he wanted to!" Document every conversation (Record them if you can? Check with your attorney first. You can pick up a suction cup microphone from Radio Shack that attaches to any phone, and then to a micro cassetter recorder, or a digitial voice recorder) Its not illegal for private citizen's to record telephone conversations in so long as at least one of the parties know that the conversation is being recorded? Alabama is one of them. In some states it doesn't matter if either party knows? In some states all that is required is that an audiable beat plays every 15 seconds. Come with a visitation log of when, where, under what circumstances, and for how long you saw your son. Keep a journal of every interaction with the STBXW. Date, time, how long, what was said. Be precise and concise! Be cool, calm, collected. Don't show your hand. Be professional about it! Keep it professional. Do not lose your temper! Do not use curse words! Do not your composure, self-control, self discipline with her or any member of her family. Do not let her push your buttons nor rile you! Do not let her engage you negative conversation! Do not show nor display any negative emotion in front of her nor her family and friends. Her family and friends are not your family and friends. No matter what they tell you or say to you! The less said? Is the best said! Anything you say or do can and will be used against you! Keep your mouth shut! Find out from your attorney what you should be or will be paying in child support per your state, and while going through the divorce process make sure you pay it religiously! Again document, do pay cash, and any extra cash you pay or money you spend on your child ~ make sure you keep receipts! Any and every dime you spend on the child? You get a receipt for. And not just one of those BS kind you get, but that says "WalMart, CVS Pharmacy, Walgreens, Dr. Joe's Pediactrics" even if its for diapers, formula ~ a freaking pacifier.
amaysngrace Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Tell her when you want to see the baby and set something up with her. Tell her you want to take the baby to see your mom or something. Make sure you have whatever it is the baby needs and if she has everything let her know you will need a diaper bag packed or borrow the car seat or whatever. Then see how it plays out. My guess is she'll say no and won't allow you to see your child. Which you have every right in the world to. And she'll be breaking the law.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 See the baby in a very highlighted public place, dont be anywhere isolated with her, because that's how she'll get you into the trap, making false charges. Watch your back!
amaysngrace Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 See the baby in a very highlighted public place, dont be anywhere isolated with her, because that's how she'll get you into the trap, making false charges. Watch your back! That's if she even agrees to let him take the baby. I'm betting not.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 That's if she even agrees to let him take the baby. I'm betting not. Yep and only on her terms... Dont agree to them if theyre not aligned with yours!
amaysngrace Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I tried to pull this with my first baby daddy. I wanted supervised visitation in my parents' home and my lawyer said no way. It would just make him uncomfortable knowing how my family feels about him. And the baby would sense the stress. It made sense to me and he was allowed visitation for a couple of hours at a time to start. But that was different. I was nursing and my son's dad hadn't even met him yet. If anything this guy should get a whole lot more time with his baby to start. He's already lived with the baby.
Woggle Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 She probably is. Never put anything past a vindictive woman who blames you for everything wrong in her life.
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