d0ll Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Isn't there a 'rule' of some kind that says not to mention ex's to someone you like?
Lucky555 Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 ya..don't do it unless its about health stuff. Seriously, hearing about an ex is a huge turn off. do you really want to hear about their love for another person at one time? wouldn't u rather focus on what your going to do together or where you want to eat? Ex's ehh not a hot subject.
Author d0ll Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 ya..don't do it unless its about health stuff. Seriously, hearing about an ex is a huge turn off. do you really want to hear about their love for another person at one time? wouldn't u rather focus on what your going to do together or where you want to eat? Ex's ehh not a hot subject. Yeah I mean we're just friends but he must know I like him
colosseum Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 ya..don't do it unless its about health stuff. Seriously, hearing about an ex is a huge turn off. do you really want to hear about their love for another person at one time? wouldn't u rather focus on what your going to do together or where you want to eat? Ex's ehh not a hot subject. Besides, what does it say about the relationship you're having now if you're talking about ones in the past? Generally to be avoided. Unless you're married for 50 years. But even then, if you are, there would be other things that would've found your interest in conversation.
Island Girl Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Generally to be avoided. Unless you're married for 50 years. But even then, if you are, there would be other things that would've found your interest in conversation. Absolutely agree. Sometimes it doesn't cause problems. USUALLY it does. And once those problems start there is no going back. It is truly best not to discuss past relationships. They are over and in the past. No need to resurrect the corpse and examine it. When you do it becomes a ghost presence in your current relationship.
Author d0ll Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 Besides, what does it say about the relationship you're having now if you're talking about ones in the past? Generally to be avoided. Unless you're married for 50 years. But even then, if you are, there would be other things that would've found your interest in conversation. We're just friends I was just thinking that if he liked me he wouldn't mention her name at all .. even though it's been less than 2 weeks
Island Girl Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 We're just friends I was just thinking that if he liked me he wouldn't mention her name at all .. even though it's been less than 2 weeks If you aren't dating and are already friends this is no barometer by which to gauge his interest. FYI if you become his "girl he can tell anything to" then often times a guy's heart follows.
Author d0ll Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 If you aren't dating and are already friends this is no barometer by which to gauge his interest. FYI if you become his "girl he can tell anything to" then often times a guy's heart follows. huh? we do tell eachother everything
Island Girl Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 huh? we do tell eachother everything If you become the one person he can tell all to -- his inner secrets, etc. even his sounding board for his feelings for his ex -- then the heart usually follows. A man can fall in love with a woman because she "understands him like no one else does", etc. That is why EAs are so dangerous. But if you aren't dating then his mentioning his ex is not indicative of anything -- either way.
IcemanJB Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I only ever talk about my ex(s) on here or to my best friend. Not even to my family. Absolutely NEVER to a girl I'm interested in, unless she is genuinely interested in the subject and keeps bugging me about it. Actually, I have a female friend (who will always remain that to me) who I will talk about ex(s) to if I need advice or something, but that's it.
Lyssa Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I do not talk about my ex-es when in a new relationship. I don't feel the need to unless asked about them.
Author d0ll Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 I only ever talk about my ex(s) on here or to my best friend. Not even to my family. Absolutely NEVER to a girl I'm interested in, unless she is genuinely interested in the subject and keeps bugging me about it. Actually, I have a female friend (who will always remain that to me) who I will talk about ex(s) to if I need advice or something, but that's it. I've asked if he's still talking to her so I brought it up that time, we flirt so i'm not sure he thinks of me as "just a friend" I do not talk about my ex-es when in a new relationship. I don't feel the need to unless asked about them. It's not a new relationship, we haven't even dated.
Lyssa Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 It's not a new relationship, we haven't even dated. Still, I wouldn't say anything unless asked. I wouldn't say anything to someone I like/new/am dating etc. It's in the past.
Author d0ll Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 Still, I wouldn't say anything unless asked. I wouldn't say anything to someone I like/new/am dating etc. It's in the past. I'm the same way .. but it's only been 2 weeks so I don't know all I know is I don't like it but I don't wanna be mean
Lyssa Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I'm the same way .. but it's only been 2 weeks so I don't know all I know is I don't like it but I don't wanna be mean I'm sure you don't wanna be mean. Well if he asked anything about your ex then answer him but make it short. I went out with this guy and he asked me about my ex - so I answered him, short and simple. Then he told me about his - long version! I realised then that he wasn't over his ex... even if he was, it sure didn't sound like it!
Author d0ll Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 I'm sure you don't wanna be mean. Well if he asked anything about your ex then answer him but make it short. I went out with this guy and he asked me about my ex - so I answered him, short and simple. Then he told me about his - long version! I realised then that he wasn't over his ex... even if he was, it sure didn't sound like it! Eh yeah I mean I've always liked him but kept my distance cause I knew I couldn't have him so I dated others & mentioned them to him but he always changed the subject fast ha
northstar1 Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Isn't there a 'rule' of some kind that says not to mention ex's to someone you like? No rule - just don't make it a frequent topic of conversation. My girlfriend and I have both made mention of our ex's briefly and then moved on. There is nothing wrong with making mention of ex's, as long as it's in a historical context and doesn't become a frequent topic of discussion.
MusicChick24 Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I would say generally yes you don't mention the ex especially in the new stages of the relationship. The only time I can say it would be ok is if you are in a situation like mine where some exes are very close friends, in which my boyfriend mingles with them as they are his friends too now, so he is okay with it. He knows the past is the past with those I kept in my life so he doesn't mind.
Author d0ll Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 k so I thought I finally thought he was healing (somewhat) cause he hasn't mentioned her the last few times we've talked then I find out he was looking at old pictures & got kinda sad
Author d0ll Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 Do you think it's possible he likes me & feels comfortable with me so he feels he can tell me anything/everything?
Island Girl Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Do you think it's possible he likes me & feels comfortable with me so he feels he can tell me anything/everything? Didn't you already answer this question? huh? we do tell eachother everything
Author d0ll Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 yeah but that doesn't mean he does like me I was wondering if it's possible
Island Girl Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 What you are asking is whether he likes you as more than a friend or not. Nothing you have posted here calls it one way or the other. He could possibly think of you as a friend who he can tell his problems to. If that is the case it could possibly grow into more if you become the one person that he feels he can tell anything to and has had some attraction for you. (I said this before.) Time will tell. OR he could think of you only as a friend and is not attracted to you in "that way". Time will tell. You can hasten the discovery of whether he is attracted or not by speaking with him about it. I am just not sure if you are comfortable to be able to have that conversation. But you say you talk about everything so why don't you talk to HIM and see where his head is?
Author d0ll Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 What you are asking is whether he likes you as more than a friend or not. Nothing you have posted here calls it one way or the other. He could possibly think of you as a friend who he can tell his problems to. If that is the case it could possibly grow into more if you become the one person that he feels he can tell anything to and has had some attraction for you. (I said this before.) Time will tell. OR he could think of you only as a friend and is not attracted to you in "that way". Time will tell. You can hasten the discovery of whether he is attracted or not by speaking with him about it. I am just not sure if you are comfortable to be able to have that conversation. But you say you talk about everything so why don't you talk to HIM and see where his head is? well he calls me gorgeous/cute
Island Girl Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 well he calls me gorgeous/cute So does a really good guy friend of mine. He doesn't mean anything by it - he calls lots of girls that - and he knows I am in no way interested nor will I ever be. It needs to be something a bit more concrete than that to be able to tell for sure...
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