Author asuman Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 The dynamic is very imbalanced where you will do anything it seems to make her happy but I don't get the sense of the opposite. It sounds like you are at her mercy. Anyway - have a chat and I really recommend in person. Why does it only have to be on the weekend? Doesn't have to be. I'll call her up next week and see if we can meet to talk. I know what you're saying about that imbalace, but I don't think it's wrong of her to simply not be at the same pace I am. My having feelings for her doesn't mean I'm willing to be her doormat, which I'm not. I like the idea of talking to her and seeing what happens.
BCCA Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Disagree on 2 points, agree on the others. The best relationships I've had started slowly. I'm not one to push for sex ASAP unless all I really want to do is have sex with her. I don't have sex with people I don't have some emotional connection to (unless the girl really wants to rape me, in which case I'm happy to oblige). Also pretty confident I'm not in the friend zone. Our make out sessions are too hot for that. Something else is going on, and it may simply be lack of interest. Ok slowly, now a days, is waiting at least a month. 6 weeks if you REALLY want to take it slow. 3 months? Thats longer than a lot of relationships I see on here. I think youre denying your sexual urges in hopes that she'll notice and appreicate it, when I think she could very well be taking it as youre too shy to go for what you want, which is boring. I dont believe any guy that says he doesnt want to have sex with a girl he's been dating that long. Her lack of interest could honestly be a direct result of you not going for it, sexually. Like I said, women like sex, too, but they expect guys to be the ones to initiate most of the time. As for the friends part, if shes got a lack of interest, where do you think youre going to end up? The dynamic is very imbalanced where you will do anything it seems to make her happy but I don't get the sense of the opposite. It sounds like you are at her mercy. Exactly. I think you should read 'No More Mr Nice Guy" by Glover. Sounds to be like youre doing some things all wrong, and Im not surprised at the results.
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