Dasilva Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Im gonna try to keep it short, if anybody can tell me what they think please respond. Right now im 20 and I have been with this girl for 3 years and we also dated when i was 14 for just over a year. When we met it was love at first sight. I love her to death and I think she feels the same way. I really cant see myself with anybody else and she tells me the same thing. I wasnt always the perfect boyfriend and 1 time I was drunk and made out with a girl... every day I regret it... she forgave me and we were together for over a year after that. About 2 months ago she started a new job and things started getting a little shakey, she was arguing with me every day and eventually told me she needed to get away from me but she always thought we would end up together. I had a feeling something was up but I respected her decision. I still tried contacting her after that and she would still speak to me but every so often she would not answer her phone and tell me that she was doing nothing wrong just hanging out with some new friends she met at work. She told me who she was hanging out with and admitted to having some guys emails and numbers but she happened to leave out this 1 guy that was part of the new group of friends. I found out from somebody else that works with her that this guy was always hanging around as well... so automatically im wondering why she happened to leave out this particular guy. She ended up admitting he hangs out with them once they went to the movies and once to the guys house but she always claimed that it was the whole group and she wasnt interested in him at all... just thought he was good looking. I had a feeling something wasnt right, I can just tell. Last night they went to a club for one of the girls birthdays and she said nothing happened they were just dancing in a group. Today she txts me and says that she loves me and she made a mistake and she never wants to hang out with those guys again... i was dreading hearing what she had to say but i needed to know. She told me she kissed him and that it was big mistake. I love her to death and I want to forgive her but I told her that she couldnt hang out with the guy, she says but he hangs out with my other friends from work so what can I do? Im not sure why she would tell me she never wants to hang out with them again and then tell me its pretty much inevitable and that they will. I told her I dont think i could be with her knowing shes hanging out with the guy and she seems pretty confused. What do you think I should do and what do you think she is going through?
boogieboy Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Im suspicious of her since she says she HAS to hang out with him because all her work friends do. I think you should back off and let her do what she does. Let her feel you back off. Dont tell her who to hang with, that will only push her towards a new guy. Its not looking good, she obviously thinks shes run her course with you. I dont think shes confused, but the only way to find out for sure is to let her go. Youre 20, youve been going out for 3 years, her friends are prolly saying she needs to try new guys, or she got bored of you. Youre on shakey ground here if she is kissing new guys. I dont believe she regrets anything.
Ariadne Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 What do you think I should do and what do you think she is going through? First I want to say that you write so nice And second, what can you do.. You have to leave her alone, you can't control her.
Author Dasilva Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 Listen to this.. the day she was at the club and some days before that I didnt talk to her. I wanted to but I didnt. The morning after she went to the club she sent me an email that said nothing but " i miss you ". Later that day she admitted to what she did without me having to say anything and said it was a mistake, you think if she really didnt regret it that she would come clean so soon ?
boogieboy Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Listen to this.. the day she was at the club and some days before that I didnt talk to her. I wanted to but I didnt. The morning after she went to the club she sent me an email that said nothing but " i miss you ". Later that day she admitted to what she did without me having to say anything and said it was a mistake, you think if she really didnt regret it that she would come clean so soon ? Its all games, she might be one of those girls who break up with you, and keep you hanging on a string for her ego boost. Her saying she misses you wcould go either way. Just keep letting her contact you, and keep your distance for now. Let her keep coming to you. Watch how well it works. Dont reply right away.
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