jany Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Hi everyone, I just posted my problem under "Infidelity" and I think maybe this is the more suitable forum for me. I had a "fling" with a married coworker that started last summer, and lasted for about six months. We did not have sexual intercourse but we certainly did things that would constitute as "sex." There is no doubt in my mind that my husband would consider this as cheating. It has been six months since we "met" and I am still trying to get over him. I have been trying to channel all my energy to my husband but for some reason, I'm still lusting after my co-worker. He is on my thoughts often and I don't know how to stop this or get over him. We both want to leave our positions (for him: change of career, for me is because I need to get over him) and we both have been applying for various positions. Short of quitting my job, I am not sure what to do. I should also mentioned that we knew what we did was wrong but still couldn't help ourselves. He was definitely the driver in the relationship, including putting a stop to it. I actually did not want it to stop but he wants to stop because he knows it's wrong. He's extremely practical and he thinks that once we start having sex, we would be having this long drawn out affair which he knows is just a bad idea. I don't know how he can just exercise such restraint. I don't know what to do. I want him so badly. I yearn for him physically.
hopesndreams Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I feel bad for your husband, he's in the dark about all this and even though you may not realize it, it is putting a huge strain on your marriage. It is unfair to be yearning physically for another man while your husband is wondering what the hey is up with you. Even though you haven't told him about any of this, there is a very good chance he is feeling something isn't right and he might put two and two together and presto...you've been found out.
Author jany Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 It was definitely hard for us when I first stopped the relationship. It was like an addiction and I was having bad withdrawal symptoms. I was so hooked on the feeling and I have been somewhat okay for the past 2-3 months. But somehow, the strong urge for OM has returned this past few weeks.
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