chels Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Hi... so I started dating a new guy about a month ago. I could tell he was interested in me from the beginning but I held back a bit because I wasn't sure if I wanted to date anyone or not. But now that we've been hanging out I am starting to really, really like him. What worries me is that the other day he told me he has gotten bored in committed relationships in the past, but feels different about me than other girls he's dated and hopes he can show me he can be a good boyfriend. Am I being paranoid or is this a red flag? He treats me well, includes me in his life and wants to see me all the time, but it's hard for me to believe that he's suddenly over his commitment issues after dating me for 1 month....
neowulf Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Hi... so I started dating a new guy about a month ago. I could tell he was interested in me from the beginning but I held back a bit because I wasn't sure if I wanted to date anyone or not. But now that we've been hanging out I am starting to really, really like him. What worries me is that the other day he told me he has gotten bored in committed relationships in the past, but feels different about me than other girls he's dated and hopes he can show me he can be a good boyfriend. Am I being paranoid or is this a red flag? He treats me well, includes me in his life and wants to see me all the time, but it's hard for me to believe that he's suddenly over his commitment issues after dating me for 1 month.... Given it's only been a month, I wouldn't be too freaked out just yet. Make up your own mind on how much time you want to invest in this relationship as it moves forward. I will say this though. Judge people on their actions, not their words. Saying he "feels" different means nothing if he begins to behave in a way that demonstrates he's not commited.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I had to re-read the post because I missed the supposed "red flag." No, I don't think it's a red flag. It's only been a month. I hate it when people say this to me, but you're overthinking it. He didn't propose marriage. And so far, has he given YOU a reason to believe you shouldn't try a relationship with him? Give it a shot. You've only invested one month so far. Have fun with it.
colosseum Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I say give him a chance; maybe he's for real. But yes, listen to neowulf: Judge people on their actions, not their words.
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