someg Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Should an ex be forgotten? Tried contacting her and it turned into a huge disaster. We insulted each other. I am probably the blame for this. I just came on the wrong way. I was dumped by this girl. I do still have some feelings for her. I deleted her number and the only thing left is her email address. I wish we could have been friends or just stayed in contact. It probably will never happen. I doubt she'll try to contact me. I probably can't contact her after this and even if I did I have no idea what I'll say. I'll probably look like an idiot to have tried to contact her again. So the question is should I just forget about her? Should I delete her email address which I don't want to do. I'm single right now and maybe that's the only reason I even want to keep contact with her. Maybe if I were married or in a great relationship, I would have no desire to contact her. Should an ex be forgotten and never look back?
whichwayisup Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Yes, forget about her. Heal and move on so you can find love again with someone else. Clean slate.
jlr Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 I don't think you'll ever really forget if you still love someone. I guess the best you can hope for is that the pain and the longing subside. But I don't know if they SHOULD be forgotten. I mean, you either forget them or you don't. Your heart will do what it needs to, I guess. It sucks, I know. I'm in a similar boat.
Ingenue Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Even in the worst breakups, I don't think an ex should be forgotten if only to remind yourself of what an inappropriate and incompatible match your ex was. All of our experiences, relationship or otherwise, help to shape who we are as individuals and help us to grow. If I'd have forgotten what an utter douche my last ex was and how he treated me, I wouldn't have a yardstick to measure how I should be treated by a man in a relationship. In terms of giving up on cultivating a relationship or forgetting about the possibility of friendship, it really depends on the dynamic of the relationship during break-up time. It sounds from your description that it didn't end well (she dumped you) and that subsequent calls have resulted in unpleasantness (name calling, unkind words). I'd probably recommend to not contact your ex until a great deal of time has passed. When that has happened, you can assess whether you want to try to rekindle friendship but only do so when you no longer have feelings for her. There is that saying, "an ex is an ex for a reason"
wow123 Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 I have never forgotten any or mine. The most recent one I think about everyday as I am still hurt and in love with her. The others cross my mind from time to time but the feelings are gone and they are just memories.
nopainnogain Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Ill never forget my ex because she taught me a valuable lesson. Which is "what not to do to a significant other : lol.
Trialbyfire Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 It's impossible to forget someone who's been a meaningful part of your life. This doesn't mean that you have to be in contact, if both parties aren't interested in communicating. Not all exes make worthwhile friends, as issues that cropped up during the relationship, especially unresolved ones, tend to crop up afterwards. Instead of wasting energy pining for something that's not going to happen, at least right now, use that energy to move on.
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