mogul Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 ( I apologize, possible rant followed by questions) So my past few posts on here are about the same girl. I don't get it. For the past few months, there were subtle signs she was in to me. I would always catch her staring at me or try to be in my general vicinity. Through a mutual friend, i found out she had a boyfriend. This has been confirmed. The thing with her boyfriend is that no one would ever imagine her being with him. He is the exact opposite of her. He is sub par on the attractiveness scale, he does not have much going for him, mediocre car/job, horrible dresser, and just can't do the things and take her to places she seems accustomed to. One day I decided to chat her up and we exchanged contact info. I called her a few days later, told her i found her interesting and would really get to like to know her better over dinner. She started giggling as if she were probably blushing and flattered and she agreed. We made tentative plans. On the day of, she called, apologized and rescheduled. This would happen the next few times, but instead of just canceling or vaguely blow me off by saying she'd let me know when she was free, she would always apologize and reschedule with tentative plans. I got frustrated and told her i would let her know when i was free in a bitter tone. After a night of drunken debauchery and a major hangover waking up, i made contact with her again and suggested lunch. She said she was going on a business trip and would let me know when she gets back in a week. I'm not holding my breath on her calling me back. Q's: I don't understand why she is not falling head over heels for me or atleast feel special i am pursuing her. I am sure all her friends are in favor of me as she would be very lucky to be with me. Her boyfriend and I are on opposite ends of the spectrum and it is blatently clear that all her friends, and everyone else that knows us knows and can see it. Is she just being different and trying to play hard to get with me, or just not plain interested and stringing me along? Its just because i usually don't put so much effort or stress over a certain girl to get with her, however, with her she just seems like someone for me with relationship potential.
bean1 Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Q's: 1. I don't understand why she is not falling head over heels for me 2. or at least feel special i am pursuing her. 1. Sounds a bit arrogant, sorry. 2. She does feel special. She has the benefit of a steady boyfriend and gets her ego flattered by another guy. Is she relationship material? How would you feel if she kept making plans with another guy - if she was your girlfriend? There's always someone who is hotter, has a nicer car, and dresses better than you. If that's what you think will win a girl over
Author mogul Posted June 10, 2009 Author Posted June 10, 2009 1. Sounds a bit arrogant, sorry. 2. She does feel special. She has the benefit of a steady boyfriend and gets her ego flattered by another guy. Is she relationship material? How would you feel if she kept making plans with another guy - if she was your girlfriend? There's always someone who is hotter, has a nicer car, and dresses better than you. If that's what you think will win a girl over That is not what i think at all. Her bf is quite bland and acts like he is the best thing since sliced bread when he has nothing to be proud of at all. All i am saying is that all her girl friends tell her (mutual friend), and she probably herself knows that she would be more compatible with me. I am genuinely nice, and sincere in my intention in getting to know her better and where it could lead. Is it possible that she was just trying to be nice and gently blow me off by rescheduling and what not after i blatantly told her that i was interested in her and would like to take her to dinner? Does the fact that she could of just said she was out of town, but instead said she would call me when she got back means she has intentions of actually calling me?
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Wow. Ok. The reasons you stated as to why you're better than her BF are superficial. Not all girls are. Maybe she's IN LOVE with him...consider that.
lora22 Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 She's with him because she sees something in him besides superficial qualities. Sounds like her idea of what makes someone bf material is quite different from yours. What it means is (I think Bean said this) she likes the attention she's getting from you while not wanting to leave a relationship that she's probably happy in with a guy she likes.
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