sean22 Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 To make a long story short.. my gf broke up with me becuase she was going overseas and she said the relationship was putting to much pressure on her. The next day she told my best mate she didn't think the relationship was going anywhere. I was wondering if it could have been that i was taking it too slow and wasn't intimate enough. I never made an attempt to make out with her. One of her friends told me that i needed to go in for the hookup, and i never did and now im regretting it. I feel as though she could have been waiting and she may just came to a conclusion that i wasn't that interested in her or i wasn't confident enough. i DID want to make out with her, i just never did.. i dont know why, i just never got a vibe to go in for it. other girls ive kissed there has just been a momentand ive just done it and this time i just didnt come.. and now shes gone. Am i stupid for thinking this? Would a girl break up with a guy for this reason?... i feel like this could have been a mistake i made and its just bugging me that i didnt take the risk and just try and kiss her. If she really wanted me to kiss her that bad couldn't she have just made the move on me? or are some girls just like that? We were out with a group of friends at a park after a party one night, and she walked off to a seat where i followed her and we sat talking. Looking back this may have been my invitation, but this was early on in the relationship and i wasnt thinking about it at the time. I don't know.. I could be all wrong and this probably all sounds lame, but looking back and putting all the pieces together it makes me feel like i made a mistake. Who knows.. maybe she just wasnt that interested in me from the beggining and thats why i got the vibe. I dont know why she said yes when i asked her out though knowing she was going overseas in a few months and it wasnt going to work.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Uh...yeah. If my BF had never tried to make out with me, we would not BE bf/gf. WTH? How did you two decide you were bf/gf if you had never even kissed? I consider physical intimacy to be EXTREMELY important. How long did you guys "date?" Meaning, how long were you bf/gf and at what point did you decide that you WERE bf/gf even though you hadn't even kissed. Heck, yes, if I got myself into a weird situation where I was gf to a guy and we had never kissed...and he never tried...I'd be gone. You asked about girls making the move...eh. I tend to think that's more the guy's job. BUT...I do make it INSANELY OBVIOUS to said guy to do something. There are no subtle hints. Generally the "hint" is my face about 2 inches from his. LOL One time a guy said, "Maybe I should kiss you" and I dove at him. LOL But I'm sure this would depend on the girl. But if she called herself your gf, I'm relatively sure she wouldn't have punched you for kissing her.
Author sean22 Posted June 10, 2009 Author Posted June 10, 2009 no no no.. i kissed her a few times and kissed her goodbye. I just never had a full on make out with her. I was going out with her for about a month but i was away for a week in the middle where there was no phone reception so like 3 weeks. I had tafe and work throughout the week, and shed have work so id usually only see her on 1 or 2 week nighs a week and on the weekend. I regret taking it so slow now. i think i may have been in the mindset that i had all the time in world.. not thinking about her going away. I think i just wasnt used to being in a realationship. I'm also kinda shy, but i think she knows that. Absence is definatly making the heart grow fonder I have this voice in the back of my head just shouting "WTF were you doing!" I guess ive learnt a lesson now.. next realtionship will proably end up to fast now though :/
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Well, neither extreme is going to help you much. But seriously - you considered yourselves bf/gf but YOU were worried she wouldn't be okay with "making out." Does that mean you hadn't even french kissed? When you say that you had kissed, were these the kinds of kisses you would have given to a relative?
Author sean22 Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 Yes that means i hadn't french kissed and they were a bit more passionate than you would give a relative. I think she may not have been that interested in me for some reason, or if she is just one of the girls who expects the guy to everything. I kinda felt like i was having to make all the effort, but im inexperienced in realtinships and shy. I think she should have known that though. I never got a vibe or feeling during the relationship that told me to go in for a hook up. Someone said before that i may have been idealizing her and didnt want to dirty her with the thoughts of sex etc. This was the first girl i was really into. I guess ive screwed this one up, theres no fixing this is there. I think ill just have to learn a lesson from this.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 It's all about trial-and-error. That's what life is, in general. It's incredibly rare to get something right on the very first try. Step it up a little next time and see what happens. Every mistake is a lesson - it's good that you see it, here. Good luck the next go-round.
BobSacamento Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Yo I want to make out with a girl I'm dating by like minute 2....so a month dude? Either something is wrong with you or she was BUSTED.
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