I Luv the Chariot OH Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 We've been dating 2 and 1/2 years & renting our place about 9 months. We love living together and everything is as awesome and perfect as can be without being unrealistic. He landed an awesome job a little while ago and now he has a good amount of money coming in. Our lease is up in September and we considered moving apartments, but then a week ago we picked up a condo guide one day and just started falling in love with the new developments around the city. I became so enraptured I didn't even really give myself time to think about it, but now that I have, I see things like 25-year mortgages and being a co-signer, and I realize buying property with someone is something I could only do with someone I am absiolutely, 100% spending the rest of my life with (or at least the next 25 years, depending on the amortization). And this is what I want- I'm completely happy with him- and what he says he wants too. But I think we're probably still too young to get married. I mean, I'm a typical girl. I want to get married. I want to have a fancy wedding with a big dress and a sushi bar, but I want us getting married to be SPECIAL. I don't want it to be because he HAD TO because it was the only way I'd buy a condo with him. How do you tell your SO that you don't want to buy a house with them until the two of you are married, without having it sound like you want to get married asap? Is it even fair to want to wait until you're married if you're already living together?
OpenBook Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Get your own place when your current lease is up. THAT'S how you tell him.
Katherineos123 Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Tell him exactly what you just typed. That you are in no way trying to pressure him into marriage, but that buying property with someone is a financial risk that youre not ready to take until you are legally wed. He should understand. It certainly would be risky in my opinion to purchase a condo with this guy.... and God forbid you two break up, not only will it be all that more painful and messy... but one of you will be out all of the time, energy and most importantly money, that you put into the place!
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