Lucky555 Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Guy i have been talking to says relationships never work. we just happened to be talking about a show and then he blurted out this. I gave him my take on viewing relationships but now I am lost of how to proceed. Advise?
JohnnyBlaze Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 We need more background. Have you talked relationship with him? What's his history like? Did he just come out of a bad relation (or a bad string thereof)? What was the show? Was it dealing with something that hit close to home? Maybe one of his parents have been married a number of times, and he's grown up around failed relationships. There are a lot of reasons that could have lead him to that conclusion. Also, in terms of how to proceed, what are you looking for? Do you want to be just friends with this guy, or do you want more? If you want more, how much more? Something casual, or is this guy potentially serious material? It will all affect how you should proceed (i.e. how much bridge-burning you should or shouldn't do).
Author Lucky555 Posted June 9, 2009 Author Posted June 9, 2009 We need more background. Have you talked relationship with him? What's his history like? Did he just come out of a bad relation (or a bad string thereof)? What was the show? Was it dealing with something that hit close to home? Maybe one of his parents have been married a number of times, and he's grown up around failed relationships. There are a lot of reasons that could have lead him to that conclusion. Also, in terms of how to proceed, what are you looking for? Do you want to be just friends with this guy, or do you want more? If you want more, how much more? Something casual, or is this guy potentially serious material? It will all affect how you should proceed (i.e. how much bridge-burning you should or shouldn't do). we have just been communicating a back and forth, I am taking it slow to see what his intentions are. He talks via online. I have known him for awhile now but just recently we reconnected. He leaves me messages on my facebook everyday but very "casual messages". We were talking about a show where the woman is selecting her "future" husband ( I won't mention the title because i wouldn't want him reading this) and then he mentioned how relationships never work out. He did have a huge heartbreak a couple years ago. I told him that relationships work when you find the right person. I didn't add more because I don't know how to proceed after hearing this. I do like the guy, but I want to see his intentions. I think he was trying to see if I am interested in him which i am but i am slowly revealing my interest by complimenting him or replying to him when he does message me. Right now contact is back and forth. I like how this is progressing because I feel like i am not chasing him, rather its more balanced. I am letting things flow and trying not to become too attached too soon. I would like to date him but i don't start working till in a couple of weeks. Also, now that i heard him say this about relationships it makes me wonder if I should just ignore him and move on or keep chatting? I am keeping an open mind for other guys. However, this guy and I have a lot in common and I do enjoy talking with him. So what am i to do with this information?
JohnnyBlaze Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Just store it in the back of your head for the time being. My guess, as I alluded to earlier, is that he's had a bad string of luck with women, or he grew up in a repeatedly broken home, so he's probably a little biased. For now, just keep going as you are. It sounds like things are progressing well right now, so there's no reason to change anything up!
Author Lucky555 Posted June 9, 2009 Author Posted June 9, 2009 ok i wont change what i am doing now. I will keep it the same but keep it in mind thanks for the advise.
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