r0xigirll991 Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Well Im back again.. and basically in the same situation... except worse. same lines, "we aren't meant for each other", "we argue", "we need time apart", "i need my space" do you think he'll ever want me back ever? Ugh... doesn't it take time to miss someone, he hasn't tried to contact me... he also said he doesnt really love me, when the week before he told me he did love me.. when he did try to contact me, it was to say... "hey", "im not gonna not talk to you, when your gone". Then he never said anything back and that was almost a week ago, he also said, "I'd love for you to still be in love with me while I figure things out", idk... what that means, its like hinting he already knows he wants to come back to me.... and if he does, i love him so much, ill wait on him... and he says he knows he wants to see me when I come back from my trip, but we cant be together because we have to problems
BCCA Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 He's not coming back for anything besides some booty. Everything he's saying is pretty textbook. Of course he still wants you to be in love with him, that means he can do whatever he wants, and if all else fails, he can come back to you. Is that what you want to be, an emergency back up plan? No. You really need to 100% ignore this guy from now on. He doesnt have your best interests in mind, and honestly, he sounds like a douche.
Exit Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 You need to spend some time not thinking about this. You just posted a very similar thread yesterday and everyone tried to give you advice. I know it's tempting to come to these websites every day and ask for more and more validation and comfort, but nobody will ever really make you feel better through a computer screen. Nobody can make him come back. He is sending mixed signals at best, I wouldn't hope for too much to work out. He is using his time to do whatever he wants and enjoy himself right now and so should you. Maybe he will come back and maybe he won't. Sitting there worrying about it will not bring them back any faster, instead it will make it feel like an eternity.
Mike B. Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 I really don't think she is ready to listen to us, guys. Some people just need to follow-through and feel the pain in all of it's nastiness to learn from it. If he is really what you want then fight for him but you must be willing to accept the world of hurt that will surely come down on you in the end. It will feel much worse than anything you may feel now. All you are doing by continuing to pursue this guy is putting off the full blown pain and when you put it off, it demands interest in the end.
t0ri Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 He's toying with you, and saying things that you are viewing as a glimmer of hope. When in reality, he does not want you but still wants you to be stuck on him, for his own egotistical purposes. Don't wait around for someone who doesn't want all of you, all the time, although I know you think that's a good idea right now. It's not. You have some self-respect somewhere inside you, find it, and cut this guy off. It's hard when you love the person, but you'll find that you're better off not wasting anymore time on this dude. He's immature, and if he does come back, be prepared to be toyed with continuously. Trust me, I just went through it. I didn't listen to that advice, and I wish I had. Wisen up lil' lady! Guard your heart cuz this guy is bad news. Why would you want someone who loves you one week and not the next? That's not love. Or someone who does not think you're the right one for him? Let go...Don't let your emotions override your logic.
SweetyBear Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 You sound like you're in so much pain. I think most of us have been there and some of us still are. You have to be good to you. Live your life not worrying if he'll come back and not analyzing everything he says and does. Believe me, he's not giving it half as much thought as you are. I know it might not make sense to everyone and maybe it's a bit of playacting, but I'm pretending my ex is not in his right mind and that me analyzing anything he says or does right now would be like trying to understand a crazy person. That's because of all the contradictory behavior he's exhibited, which sounds like what your ex has done as well. You can drive yourself crazy trying to understand or you can decide that it's incomprehensible to a sane person and be kind to yourself. Then if he comes to you later in his right mind, you'll be ready to really hear him and see if he's someone you still want to be with.
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