lab_brat Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Hi guys, I'm new here, and would really appreciate some help. So, i haven't dated for quite a while, but theres this guy. Works at my uni (BTW, i'm an adult honors student, similar ages, but he is in a different department). I'm interested in him and i'm fairly certain he likes me. He's gone out of his way to find me a few times, we can talk for ages, and even came to my thesis presentation (which was on something so insanely boring he couldn't possibly have come for the content). Anyway, i needed help from him in his specialty, to make a long story short(er) he emailed me saying he was free for the rest of the day to catch up after that, and in the process of trying to make sure i wasn't too obvious about hitting on him, i emailed him saying "no, thats fine, that help was enough, don't need you anymore". So, by trying not to appear too eager i seem to have rejected him, and haven't heard back from him since. Now i don't know how to make it right? I'm pathetically bad at hitting on men, and tend to babble and trip over my own feet in the presence of this one in particular. Should i just wrap myself in bubble wrap and go live in a hole underground forever? How do you unreject without sounding like a complete tool? Please help! Lab brat
Bejita463 Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 How do you unreject without sounding like a complete tool? Don't dwell on that. Just move forward, and send the right signs. Something like "It has been too long since we got together, lets get lunch and catch up" would get the message across to me pretty well, and I am typically oblivious.
EddieN Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Yeah, what you told him is an obvious rejection...it even sounds a little snippy. I know you didn't mean it that way but I'm just saying. If I were him I would have forgotten about you when I read that email and moved to another girl. The thing with the bubble wrap is an option, but I think a simple, "Hey, what are you doing for lunch tomorrow?" might work. I'll admit, I'd be a bit surprised if I was the guy, but try to be sincere.
start-fresh Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Maybe instead of playing games and trying so hard to hide your interest in him you should just keep it real and reciprocate his efforts. You mention multiple times how he's gone out of his way to see you then you 'accidentally reject' him. The burden's definitely on you to make it up to him.
Author lab_brat Posted June 10, 2009 Author Posted June 10, 2009 Thanks guys. I really wasn't intending to be snippy or play games, my brain just seems to freeze up and i find myself saying the stupidest bloody things. Ok, will go see him this afternoon, take coffee and cake by way of apology, somehow express my interest without blathering like a fool, and definitely consider investing in a bubble-wrap helmet . Thanks
Curious-One Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Don't dwell on that. Just move forward, and send the right signs. Something like "It has been too long since we got together, lets get lunch and catch up" would get the message across to me pretty well, and I am typically oblivious. yes please do something like that. If a girl i was interested in told me that i would assume that she wasnt interested and move on. Do it ASAP !!!!!!!!!!!!!
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