snowflake1961 Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 So today my boyfriend and I was talking on the phone. Just normal talk. Then out of the blue in middle of another conversation he asked me "would I marry him if he asked me?" I replied by saying yes I would marry you one day if you asked. Then I asked him where that came from. He said "it's just a question babe. Then we talked for about another hour about normal every day things. He said nothing more about the question. My question now is what does this mean. Is he thinking about asking me to marry him? Soon or in the future? I am so confused. Am I thinking to much into the question. Was there really a reason behind the question, or was it just a question? If someone could give me their opinion I would really appeciate it. Im just a little lost right now. Oh alittle bit about our situation. We have been with each other 2 1/2 years. It has been a long distant relationship until about 2 months ago. We are looking to get a place togather. We are togather / talking to each other on the phone all day everyday so we are very close with each other. I believe one day we would get married, but I dont see him as the person to ask me to marry him right now. That is why I am so confused. Dont get me wrong I know he loves me with all of his heart, and I am pretty sure he wants to be with me forever, but since we are really just now getting to spend time with each other I wasnt expecting him to say that. He is not the kind of person who rushes into anything.
Thornton Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 2 1/2 years is quite a while, you already said you're very close, and your relationship must be serious if you managed to maintain an LDR. Now you're planning on living together... it seems reasonable to me that he would propose marriage. Why don't you see him as the person to ask you to marry him? Maybe he's completely convinced that you're the one for him? I'd say don't start looking at dresses just yet, it might just be a random question, but the odds are good that he might propose before too long.
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Some guys are just sooooooo dumb... IMHO He was testing to see where you are in the whole marriage thing right now and wanted to make sure that you are still on the hook for the time being. What he found out was that you are still on the hook for him and in order to keep you he needs to do nothing. Personally if I was a girl and my BF asked me that I'd say something along the lines of : Why sure Honey, I'd marry you in a second if you ask me, but remember that 2.5 years is a long time if you are going to ask me you might want to get on that before I grow weary of giving you the milk for free so you don't have to buy the cow. He should've just asked you instead of using it as a carrot to wave in front of you to keep you around so he doesn't have to do anything "right now"
amaysngrace Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 I think he asked just to kind of throw it out there to see where you are. He could have done it for his own security and to back up how he feels about you so he knows he's not wasting his time being with you and also maybe to get you thinking about the possibility of that happening down the road. Kind of just to know you are on the same page.
Author snowflake1961 Posted June 10, 2009 Author Posted June 10, 2009 Some guys are just sooooooo dumb... IMHO He was testing to see where you are in the whole marriage thing right now and wanted to make sure that you are still on the hook for the time being. What he found out was that you are still on the hook for him and in order to keep you he needs to do nothing. Personally if I was a girl and my BF asked me that I'd say something along the lines of : Why sure Honey, I'd marry you in a second if you ask me, but remember that 2.5 years is a long time if you are going to ask me you might want to get on that before I grow weary of giving you the milk for free so you don't have to buy the cow. He should've just asked you instead of using it as a carrot to wave in front of you to keep you around so he doesn't have to do anything "right now" I really believe you are mistaken... Ok yes we have been togather 2 1/2 years... In a long distance relationship. He was many states away at school and I was in school where I live. We have talked about marriage plenty of times but we have always said we was going to wait til we finished school. He has now finished school and moved to the state I live in. He is wonderful... I do not doubt the fact we are going to be togather and get married. I just am still in school, and we said we was going to wait so now he asking me the question again the way he did had me a little confused. He does way way way more than nothing. He does everything for me from wash dishes, to rub my feet, to run my bath water.... he says he loves me and wants to wait on me. He has not been getting any milk for FREE for 2 1/2 years if you read my post fully you would have seen the part were I wrote we have been in a long distance relationship and there for he could not get to the milk anyways. Honestly I after talking to him further I now realize he was asking me because we have previously talked about waiting.. he wants to ask me now and she that i am very outspoken he thought my answer would be no... But thanks for your opinion!
Author snowflake1961 Posted June 10, 2009 Author Posted June 10, 2009 2 1/2 years is quite a while, you already said you're very close, and your relationship must be serious if you managed to maintain an LDR. Now you're planning on living together... it seems reasonable to me that he would propose marriage. Why don't you see him as the person to ask you to marry him? Maybe he's completely convinced that you're the one for him? I'd say don't start looking at dresses just yet, it might just be a random question, but the odds are good that he might propose before too long. Yes thank you for your post. I talked to him further and he said he wanted to ask me but he wanted to see if I would just say no. See we were both in college many states away and we always said we was going to get married after we both finished school. Now he is finished and I have another year left. So he wasnt sure if we were on the same page! Thanks bunches.
Art_Critic Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 I really believe you are mistaken... Ok yes we have been togather 2 1/2 years... In a long distance relationship. He was many states away at school and I was in school where I live. We have talked about marriage plenty of times but we have always said we was going to wait til we finished school. He has now finished school and moved to the state I live in. He is wonderful... I do not doubt the fact we are going to be togather and get married. I just am still in school, and we said we was going to wait so now he asking me the question again the way he did had me a little confused. He does way way way more than nothing. He does everything for me from wash dishes, to rub my feet, to run my bath water.... he says he loves me and wants to wait on me. He has not been getting any milk for FREE for 2 1/2 years if you read my post fully you would have seen the part were I wrote we have been in a long distance relationship and there for he could not get to the milk anyways. Honestly I after talking to him further I now realize he was asking me because we have previously talked about waiting.. he wants to ask me now and she that i am very outspoken he thought my answer would be no... But thanks for your opinion! Alrighty then... if only your opinion was the one that counted then why post the thread ? Just saying.. and I prefaced the post with IMHO.. meaning it was just my opinion and nothing more... Good Luck...
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