juschilln Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 my ex gf made it clear to me last week that she didnt see herself w me. . . ive been no contact for 4 days now she called me yesterday leaving a voicemail sayin that her bro just proposed to his girl and today tried callin and ended up textin me sayin her lil sis fell out of the car....im just wondering out of all the people to tell why is she tellin me? am i suppose to care? (not saying that in a bad way im just trying to move on) what is her intentions? i just dont get it....
now_what Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 You just have to wonder why they call you. A somewhat similar thing happened to me - my ex husband snuck out of the house after 30 years of marriage to live with another woman and then was too chicken to speak to me for almost 5 months. Then a couple of weeks after we had started talking to each other again, he called me from an ambulance to say he had fallen on the ice and cracked his head open. And I'm thinking .... and why did you call me? You left me, you didn't want to be with me, you said your feelings for me had changed and yet you called me? All I could figure was that he called me out of habit and then the next week I think he realized what he had done and backed off quite a bit, any contact after that was strictly business like for awhile. Maybe your ex is just used to telling you things and forgot herself, or maybe somewhere down deep inside she still cares for you and wanted to share what was going on with her.
Author juschilln Posted June 9, 2009 Author Posted June 9, 2009 i understand what you are saying but she is seeing someone else...im no longer going to be that ear to talk to or that shoulder to put her head on i just figured she would of understood that with it being the 4th day nc...
hopefulInFuture Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 I don't think people do this just out of habit... I think a lot of people think that when they dump you you'll be desperate running after them. It's great that you're demonstrating to her that it's not like that. She made her choice and you're moving on with your life. Don't even respond to her. Let her new friend deal with all of this. Now you have to concentrate on yourself and on your own healing and remember that the others will respect you only as much as you respect yourself.
NopeNah Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 i understand what you are saying but she is seeing someone else...im no longer going to be that ear to talk to or that shoulder to put her head on i just figured she would of understood that with it being the 4th day nc... Stay NO CONTACT! Shes just looking to see if you're still available to discuss such things with, since her new man's not.. F- her!! and her "problems"!!
CaliGuy Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Just ignore her. That is your best option. She's only falling back on what is familiar to her. When she finds a new guy, she will stop trying to contact you.
Author juschilln Posted June 9, 2009 Author Posted June 9, 2009 now her best friend is trying to contact me, which she has never done out of the blue....i dont want to respond bc it will get back to me ex but i dont want to be a jerk and ignore her for no reason i dunno what to do?? females drive me crazy!
CaliGuy Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 now her best friend is trying to contact me, which she has never done out of the blue....i dont want to respond bc it will get back to me ex but i dont want to be a jerk and ignore her for no reason i dunno what to do?? females drive me crazy! Trust me, now is the time to be a jerk and ignore her.
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