sandy12345678993 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I just recently wrote a "letter." My boyfriend broke up with me very painfully (read my other posts), and I guess it was a last ditch effort to get him back. I sent mine. I hear it's not good to though. It makes you look desperate. I believe that you should let people know how they make you feel good or bad, so that's why I mailed mine. It's been 2 weeks since I mailed it to my ex, and so far no response. I don't know that I ever will. I feel better that I wrote it and sent it. Whatever happens now, will be. I tried my damndest and don't regret it. I've sent a few others in previous relationships. One time I got him back, but we broke up later. I sent him another letter after that. He didn't respond to that one then, and he moved away. I don't regret that letter either. Have you ever written a "hope/closure/take me back, etc..." letter? Do you send it? Did you get a response? Was it the response you were hoping for? Did it ever save the relationship? Was it worth it? Do you regret it? Are we all just clinging to false hope?
BCCA Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Yeah, I foolishly wrote the letter. Spilled all my feelings and emotions over four pages, said exactly how I felt, and what my ex meant to me, and let her know that I wanted her to be happy, etc.etc.etc... Her response was something to the effect of "Thanks for the letter, thats really sweet. Im sure Ill read it many more times" which to me was basically her way of letting me know that she has no intentions of writing me back, and that she appreciates the ego boost it provided. Not only was it not what I wanted, I felt dumb for sending it. I will never bother with anyone after we break up ever again. No letters, calls or emails, no 'friends', nothing. If we're broken up, stay as far away from me as humanly possible. Its a last ditch effort, IMO. And its almost like a guilt trip. I dont think in the history of relationships that letters like this have done much of anything. Once someone dumps you, just walk away. Save what dignity you have, and dont waste time on letters. They just wont work.
EmperorR Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Yes I have, after my ex fiance cheated and dumped me, it was like 10 pages very pathetic, all she said was oh now I know you really did love me but it doesn't change anything. Never again.
Recommended Posts