Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 If you read my thread before I changed my number and told him if he needed to contact me he could do it by email. OVER and over again he would call me everyday every other day. I got SO sick of it. So I said look we need to stay in contact for buisness purposes only, the kids,the bills and thats it. So you can email me. I would send him a quick note back to let him know I got money he sent me whatever. He could let me know when he payed whatever bill. So I let his daughter call him lasnight. I sent him a quick note a few days ago letting him know I had received everything. He didn't answer my daughters call. She left a message. I would have had her call him back in the next few days. HE KNOWS THIS!! So he sends me an email. Sorry I missed kylas call lasnight. Did you call me saturday I got a call from a blocked number. Then he asks if the tornados got close. We had a few tornados las night 4 in one storm was pretty bad. SO WHAT WATCH THE NEWS LEAVE ME ALONE! Am I over reacting.. Probably. But I have told him so many times I don't want to be your friend I don't want to have small talk with you. He knows if I was the one who called saturday I would have left a message. I am so annoyed! No I didn't respond no I don't plan on it. WHY WON'T HE JUST LEAVE ME ALONE! I am so sick of telling him to leave me alone!
crackerjax9 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 what was the reason for your break up? hes probably just realizing he lost you & cant help it...hell start to get it after awhile and stop contacting you & will move on
wow123 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 We need some more info. Who broke up with who and Y? How long were you together?
Author Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Married 4 years. Cheated on me twice then. Then he asked ME for the divorce and a week later found out he was cheating again. Have 2 kids together.. I am so sick of putting up with him. He tells me to move on. BUT HE WON"T LET ME! I have literly old him atleast 30 times. Leave me alone don't call me. I don't want to be your friend. I don't want small talk with you. Anything that isn't about the kids or buisness is unacceptable. Thats why I changed my number. There is no reason to get on my good side he can still speak to his daughter. I am just trying really hard to wash my hands of him.
wow123 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 He is calling because he doesn't want you to move on. I have recently gone through this as well as many others here on LS. Even though you 2 cant be together he still doesn't want you to heal and move on. Mine contacted me for 2 months before stopping and she got what she wanted. She moved on and I am still hurting.
Author Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 *sighs* I am just really enraged he won't give me my space. It feels like I can't breath. He left me for another women. Fine, I'm trying to deal with it. I am writing here so I don't call him and scream at him or send him a horrible email. I have been mean to him. I have said it nicley and calmly. I really feel like I have run through the options. I will never forgive him. I have told him that. What is it going to take? All I can do his ignore him. I just don't understand why he is doing this to me? Hasn't he done enough?
Author Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 9, 2009 Author Posted June 9, 2009 So, this morning my mom calls, saying ex called her house. Telling me to call or email him. He told her he had another interview today or tomorrow would be making payments on the 18th to rent and that everything would be fine. He sends me an email saying he is expecting a little blue envelope with a pin number and for me to watch out for it. Then a little ps saying the ,landlord is breathing down his neck again for rent. Why didn't he just write all that in a email instead of calling my mom. I have only told him 3 times not to call her. Since the email was about buisness I replied. "Ok", Good enough I think. It seems like he is still playing games?
TaraMaiden Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 I'm sorry (and I may garner unpopularity with my reply) but to a certain extent you are encouraging this. First of all, unless the contact is specifically about the children - STOP REPLYING! You do not need to respond to anything he says about anything, unless a reply is absolutely required. If your parents take calls from him, and pass the message on, job done. That doesn't mean you then have to react. Him: "Did you give *Jdw_Icequeen* my message?" Your mother: "Yes." Him: "Oh, I haven't heard back from her...." Your mother: "That's not my problem. I passed on the message." And you - you do not let yourself be provoked into responding - unless, as I said, it's vital news about the children, or it's essential communication on a 'business' level. Otherwise, the more you react, the more he'll provoke!! So - if you don't want contact - you have to stop doing it too!!
Author Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 10, 2009 Author Posted June 10, 2009 I would say in the past by me ending up calling him etc.. Probably was not a good idea. But I never just call him. I didn't answer his stupid little email. The one he sent after he called my mom asking me to watch for his pin number I did answer with "ok". So he knew I had gotten his email and would be getting his information to him. I've changed my number been ignoring his emails have given small answers when needed. The best thing to do is ignore him. I was more wondering why he keeps attempting small talk and conversations. It bothers me. It makes me feel like I am being a B*tch because I can't be nice to him. I can't be human to him. I don't understand why he keeps pushing the issue. He wanted me out of his life. So here I am trying to get out and feeling like he isn't letting me just leave. On the bright side I haven't even checked my email today. I did make alot of mistakes I did check my email for him, I looked on msn for him, I waited for his calls. Today is day 5 of no contact by phone. Changed number erased and blocked him from msn. Yes I miss him. Even though he is a horrible jerk! My first goal was 2 wks no phone contact. Hopfully I will start to feel a bit better then. I don't plan to break it after that. Just hoping for the pain to disapear a bit. All and all I am sure your right and I need to show I am serious by just doing what needs to be done and move on.
Author Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 10, 2009 Author Posted June 10, 2009 He sent me money 3 days ago on a card. HE let his gf write out the address. I know it wasn't his writing I KNOW it was a females writing. O and she puts my name but NOT my last name!!!!! I want to scratch both of there eyes out!! This is all such CRAP!! No I said nothing ,no I won't say anything.
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