Peter_pan Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 so, told this girl if she was just looking for fun or wanted me, she said, i dont know how about you? i told her id like it if we were together only if she wanted the same though. she thought it was sweet. so i asked her, so how about it? she said she wasnt sure and that she is difficult. but she does like me... so i left it and changed subject. went to see her at her house the other night, didnt get up to anything naughty, and didnt smooch. she gave me a sexy pic of her and i sent one to her also. then next day she asked if i was ok and told me how her wallpaper is the pic of me. then we flirted a little and then i made some jokes. havnt heard back from her tonight. and i dont plan txting her again. but i dont know how to play this one. i do like her and what not but it seems like something is getting in the way and i dont know what it is or what i can even do about it. but she seems really hot then cold. i.e i stayed round her house when we were drunk and we kissed all night but nothing more. and then leaving her house the other day she just kissed me on the cheek and nothing more. yet pass times she txt me after saying sorry didnt know wether you wanted to kiss me or not.. my thoughts are pull back and dont try to arrange to see her. let her do that if she wants to. since she knows where she stands with me but i dont know where i stand with her. some help would be great. any advice? this is shattering playing along with what ever game we are playing. i feel like im forced to play a game that i dont know what the rules are
BCCA Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 My general rule of thumb is that when I ask a girl how she feels, and she says she doesnt know, I take it to mean she does know but realizes its not what I want. Basically, if she tells you she's never going to want to be your gf, you're going to bail, so instead, she's not really saying anything because she likes having you around (despite the fact that this is not what you want from her at all). In your shoes (as I've been there many times), youre wondering if she's ever going to change her mind, or know for sure how she feels. She will only do that once you make it clear that until she knows, youre not interested in being an 'interim-boyfriend', someone that she can call/text and makeout with/sleep with without any obligations. If you let this continue without any confirmation from her, she'll drag it out for her own benefit. What you need to do is make your intentions clear, and say unless she feels the same way, its probably best to go your seperate ways. "I dont know" is classic BS, she knows full well how she feels. Again though, if shes honest, shes going to lose you, so shes just being selfish. Dont settle for what works for her, decide what you want, and either she meets your needs, or she doesnt and you walk. No comprimise to be made.
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