Sublime333 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 A few months back I was on here when I first started seeing this guy. we are still seeing each other and it's great but I want to take it to the next level. but before doing this, I want to start seeing MORE of each other! Right now it's still only once or twice a week. It's him who calls me to go out, which is good at the beginning, but I'd like some more control! At the same time, part of me is afraid of ending the 'chase', if you know what I mean. So. Do you think I should be patient or start inviting him out on days we don't normally see each other, or should he be the one initiating that as well? I've always thought "well if a guy REALLY likes a girl, he'll always take initiative" ....but is it my turn? Thank you!
dreamergrl Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 After a few months, I don't see why you can't initiate a few of the dates here and there. Maybe he's waiting for you too. Maybe then you'll see more of him.
Kamille Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I am going to post something drastically different then what I would have posted a few months ago, before meeting my bf: yes, by all means, give the guy a break. You say it's been a few months. See, I'm revising my views on "the chase". Basically, if a guy is only after a girl just cause he likes a good chase, the relationship would never have long-term potential. At one point, a balance needs to happen where both partners are free to express how much they like each other. Plus, my bf really responds well to me showing him I like him, be it by contacting him or by initiating plans. I still leave him in charge of most of it. My point is: I think knowing when to show the guy you like that you like him is important in establishing a healthy relationship. With my bf, it encouraged him to move the relationship along.
Author Sublime333 Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Thanks for the advice. Yeah, I agree. Even after reading my own question and seeing a 'few months' , it seems a little ridiculous that I'm still worried about the chase. I guess I wish he would've pushed the relationship thing a bit more by now, but I really need to grow a backbone and fight for want I want...not just what he wants!
Kamille Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 baby steps! Start by setting up a date and see how that goes. Your posts does make me curious I have to admit... So, if you don't mind, I have a few questions. Do you let him know you like him? Do you enjoy the time you spend together?
Author Sublime333 Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Yes, I do like him very much. But I need to get to know him better in order to be sure it's the real. And I do enjoy the time we spend together- I still get butterflies! But we have yet to talk about where we are and I think that's always on the back of my mind. In order for me to have true feelings for him I have to know that he has real feelings for me. So until then it's a gray situation for both sides
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