LadyV Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I don't know what is going on with me. I had a GREAT weekend...2 in a row!!! I hung out with great friends, and did a lot of reflecting. Today I'm just angry, upset, sad, BLAH! I know that it's normal. But I keep thinking about everything and I am so angry with myself about the situation. I mean, he has moved on...has a girl now and I can't help but feel replaced and feel like he just strung me along. I want to yell at him and let him know how I feel!!! I tore up the card he left for me on the door. I just don't want to have anything to do with him....I just want to forget that I was so dumb to believe his lies! He makes me sick!
wow123 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I was replaced immediately as well. I think that is what hurts the most.
crackerjax9 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 LADY!! noo!! were too good for these immature guys! how do you no he has a new girl? i havent read all your posts just this thread and the last reading your posts has made me realize alot about my own relationship and ive been able to ignore my guy for the past couple of days... i wound up unblocking his number but i havent contacted him... stay strong!
Author LadyV Posted June 9, 2009 Author Posted June 9, 2009 I have been keeping a low profile lately, not sure why, BC posting here has been helping me a lot... I guess because I feel like a fool. I am so angry again, I did so great last week, and now the last couple of days, I have been so pissed off.... I feel like I should be done talking about it already...I should be over it. We've been broken up for over 2 months. We haven't been in contact for 37 days...still, the whole thing still lingers in the back of my mind and all I want to say his "How could you? How could you just lead me on the way you did, only to hurt me. You are a selfish jerk!!!!!" Well, Crackerjax, he started talking to new girl while still professing his love for me. We were broken up, and I found out about new girl via FB and Myspace. I then initiated NC once finding out he was infact talking to her and they were planning on going out. I am really good friends with XBF's roomate, and he did tell me of one day that she spent the night. It didn't bother me she was there, that's a given. What bothers me is the way he was "so in love"...yet, has already found someone else...and I, sit here trying to peice together my heart again.... Right now, I'm just trying to forgive myself. I know he is NO good for me and I have a real shot of finding someone who will treat me right. I know he's out there somewhere, but for now, am just trying to deal with all these emotions I'm feeling.... Some days are good, some are bad as you all know. I guess the whole feeling of failure comes back and makes me question who I am and what it is that I really want.... Like I said, just a lot of emotions....This too shall pass!
fabulous_chk Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Strange LadyV. I was full of rage yesterday as well. I initiated NC again. Today is my Day 1. I tore up his contact numbers, deleted yahoo messenger on the phone, and decided to start NC again. As soon as I did this my rage subsided. I feel lots better. You must have felt so good after tearing up the card! I would have done the same thing, with pleasure!!!!
darksky Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 Hi LadyV.. This is totally normal. I have been going NC with my ex now for about 2 months and I still have sad and angry days and think about her alot more than i would like to despite her treating me like crap! I always find that I will be busy for a certain amount of days and have lots of stuff to do and go out with friends and then when its all over and I have nothing planned again for a while my mind wonders back to the situation of my ex. This is unavoidable i guess seeing that we cant plan to do something Every day or every weekend. Just hang in there with NC and sooner or later the angry and sad days will become less and less frequent. Or at least I hope so, for both our sakes. ~Darksky
jlr Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 I can totally relate to this. My ex broke up with me after 5 years. Then for 6 months after, I feel like she strung me along, going back and forth about whether we could get back together. Then, after she decided she needed space for herself, we did NC. After a month of solid NC, she tells me met someone else, within days of our NC. So, she never even took the time to clear her head. Then, she sounds like she's in a fairy tale about how great the new person is. Now, I feel like, why am I still thinking about this? Why do I still want to sort this out. She's found someone else! It sucks to think someone can just replace you and move on, while you're still stuck picking up the pieces. But you have to find comfort knowing that since they didn't take the time to pick up the pieces, the next relationship isn't going to be a fairy tale at all. In fact, they are going to learn relationships are never that way. Some people want to make things easier. They want to run. The rest of us are still mourning the loss, still hoping and wishing our love could work out. Some may say that's weak, but maybe it's the opposite. We're the ones who really believe in working it out, in fighting for something we love. One day, we'll all meet the kindred spirit who does the same, and it WILL last. Hang in there. I know it's rough.
Author LadyV Posted June 10, 2009 Author Posted June 10, 2009 Thank you for your responses. Yes, the whole feeling of being "replaced" is the hardest to deal with. I have mentioned on here before, I was married for 13 years. My XH wanted to leave because he was "unhappy" and just wanted to "find himself". Well, He left in August 07, our D was final Feb 08, and he already had a live in girl 2 months later. I eventually got over it, her and I actually get a long. What is important is that she is good to my children. With XBF, I don't know why it tugs at my heart strings so bad...Maybe because of the fact that XBF kept the door open...with XH, we had tried and tried...but I knew in the end, that things were not going to work out. XBF kept coming back. Kept talking to me, expressing his love for me and telling me how he has hopes for us. As soon as he started talking to new girl, his thoughts had shifted. He told me how he no longer had hope for us...that he realized that we will never be...that is because he had someone waiting in the wings. 39 days NC today. I am feeling better. I think that I just needed to process through the emotions. Time is on my side...I know there is no "limit" as to when I will get over this. I did find myself today driving to work without even looking for his car! When I realized it I thought, "Wow, one more step closer!!! Your going to be just fine!"
Author LadyV Posted June 10, 2009 Author Posted June 10, 2009 You must have felt so good after tearing up the card! I would have done the same thing, with pleasure!!!! VERY MUCH SO!!!! I am going to my storage unit and throwing everything else away...I don't need that trash!!!!
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