Boogirl143 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I ended up meeting this guy from a dating website. He would text me everyday sending me some pictures of himself and he asked me if we could go out on a date sometime during the weekend. He is extremely attractive, I am very attractive also and normally don't feel intimidated by any man, but him I did. Our date went well, he told me that he liked me a lot but we slept together and it was AMAZING. We fell asleep and I spent the night at his apartment. The next morning he was very sweet to me, made us coffee, asking me things about my life, telling me things about his. When he dropped me off he said goodbye beautiful and gave me a hug and kiss. That was around noon. THEN... he didn't text me at all. Finally at 9:45pm, I sent him a text and said.. "Hey sweetie what's up"? He replied 5 minutes later and said.. "Hi. Just been keeping busy. Put curtains up the the living room and bedroom." That was it! I replied saying "Nice". That was all. I'm confused now. I am definitely not going to get in touch with him until he does first. Could he be playing hard to get? I remember him mentioning that he normally never has to message or get in touch with a girl that they always do but with me he did. Am I over reacting?
Soul Bear Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 He sounds a bit arrogant..... Sorry, just MPO. If you remember him mentioning that, take heed
Soul Bear Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 He sounds a bit arrogant..... Sorry, just MPO. If you remember him mentioning that, take heed EDIT* Sorry, double posted- server time out....
bean1 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 If you text him at 9:45pm with a "what's up" he probably dismissed that as a booty call text or as coming off too strong. Let him call you if he is interested in pursuing things, he knows you are interested. You guys went on one date and you were texting him after 8-9 hours because he didn't contact you? Yes, you had sex, but don't let that cloud the fact that you just had one date - it is simply too soon to have such high expectations. Pull yourself back before you get hurt!
lora22 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 When I read your post, that you hadn't heard from him between 12pm and 945pm I was like...yeah, so? I agree with Bean on everything.
dreamergrl Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 It's always interesting to me that a person gives so much contact up until sex. Then nothing. It's like the chase is over. Bam. You hit a wall. You wonder, would you be getting contact from this person if you didn't have sex. Anyways... I agree with Bean....
carhill Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Are you over-reacting? IMO, yes, since you created a false sense of immediacy and intimacy by having sex on the first date. Take the sex out of the equation. He'll call in a couple of days if he's interested and ask you out on another date. Respond appropriate to your interest level.
Author Boogirl143 Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Ok thanks for the advice. I am going to just wait and see now. He really seemed interested in me so I got a little confused. Hope I didn't ruin anything so far.
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