ruggy Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Do attractive or moderately attractive women ever initiate contacts at Match? Reason being, one woman e-mailed me this morning, she seems moderately attractive. Though, not as attractive as my ex. Not sure how to proceed... She seems nice, but still not sure. I am a bit picky, I know that. But, I am trying to move on; albeit, not as fast as the ex. Then again, I can't several people at once.
carhill Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Please do not gauge attractiveness by pixels on a computer screen. She e-mailed you. Respond in a manner commensurate with how you felt reading that e-mail. If nothing, nothing. If something, something. If it made you wonder, meet her. Being picky whilst immersed in electrons is a sure way to a life of solitude
Author ruggy Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Yea, I was learning towards it. I really have nothing to loose in seeing where it goes. If it goes at all, that is. Now, the big question... How do I to comparing datees from the ex? It seems to be a big sticking point on my mind... Not sure why, cause, the ex, she's not that attractive, I mean she's good looking, but not a knock-out. Well, unless you ask her. The girl before her was a knock-out, and I really don't think much of her.
carhill Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 You do understand that at this point you're just comparing a genetic carcass, don't you? If your ex even enters your mind while you're doing this, do not waste this or any woman's time, please
clv0116 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I never tried match but the few other services I've tried they do. I'd say it's about 50/50 with 1 out of 10 being essentially hate-mail.
northstar1 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Do attractive or moderately attractive women ever initiate contacts at Match? Reason being, one woman e-mailed me this morning, she seems moderately attractive. Though, not as attractive as my ex. Not sure how to proceed... She seems nice, but still not sure. I am a bit picky, I know that. But, I am trying to move on; albeit, not as fast as the ex. Then again, I can't several people at once. Ruggy, weren't you complaining last week about online dating and not getting any replies? Now you get a woman who is "moderately attractive' emailing you and you not sure if you want to reply?? Seems easy enough to me.
BCCA Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I would say go for it. You really have nothing to lose, and worse case scenario, you go out and know for sure youre not interested. Carhill is spot on, dont judge her solely on online pics. Truth be told, almost all of them are not really a good indication of what they REALLY look like. I've gone out with women whose pics were HOT, and then realized they must have been taken in 1998. Also, Ive met girls who looked so-so, and in real life turned out to be hotties. You may still need some time to get over your ex. No one is ever going to measure up to someone you had a relationship with right off the bat, so comparing them is pointless.
samspade Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Do attractive or moderately attractive women ever initiate contacts at Match? Reason being, one woman e-mailed me this morning, she seems moderately attractive. Though, not as attractive as my ex. Not sure how to proceed... She seems nice, but still not sure. I am a bit picky, I know that. But, I am trying to move on; albeit, not as fast as the ex. Then again, I can't several people at once. The surest way to date attractive women is to find them offline, in real life situations, and take the initiative as a man. I know that doesn't answer your question, but you're limiting yourself if you use online services, and then REALLY limiting yourself if you wait for a female to contact you first.
eiithan Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 To answer your question, yes attractive, intelligent women do sometimes initiate Match contacts. I am dating the only person who replied to my email actually. For the woman who contacted you, if she's moderately attractive and her profile seems solid, I'd say give her a chance. Some attractive (and smart) women do not put sexy pictures because they don't want unnecessary attention. I used to be in a relationship with a very pretty boy whom I nearly worshipped for his good looks. I still appreciate good looking men but the very reason I contacted my current date is because he had a big, kind smile and his profile indicated he lives a solid, healthy life. And he turned out to be an unique individual whom I found very attractive. So yes...you have nothing to lose :-)
Shygirl15 Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 I know that doesn't answer your question, but you're limiting yourself if you use online services, and then REALLY limiting yourself if you wait for a female to contact you first. I don't think that's what he said.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 I never tried match but the few other services I've tried they do. I'd say it's about 50/50 with 1 out of 10 being essentially hate-mail. !! LMAO...you got HATE mail??? Saying WHAT, exactly? Gees, that's random. They hate you for existing? For breathing? For being on the site? For looking like their ex? I mean, heavens...I can't imagine getting worked up enough about some online profile to send them hate mail.
stepka Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Do attractive or moderately attractive women ever initiate contacts at Match? Reason being, one woman e-mailed me this morning, she seems moderately attractive. Though, not as attractive as my ex. Not sure how to proceed... She seems nice, but still not sure. I am a bit picky, I know that. But, I am trying to move on; albeit, not as fast as the ex. Then again, I can't several people at once. OMG, you sound like all the guys I've contacted on there and never heard back from. I'm about to give up and I think I'm moderately attractive. Is that it? They think that if I contact them I must be hard up? Or is just that middle aged men don't want to date middle aged women? That's just screwy thinking--some women just like to do the choosing sometimes is all it is. As for your dating several people at once--most will be one-time dates anyway, so you can do several of those concurrently, then choose a couple or three winners then narrow it down still further--unless you're really hot, you probably won't get overextended. Also, I think it's normal to compare things w/ your ex at first and that will fade w/ time--some people will actually do things better than your ex.
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