Author 4everloveu Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 ... or maybe there's no affair at all because your friend is lying? Or the husband's fine with it? Or he's having one of his own? She text him when he was with me. Sometimes called also. I don't think the husband will be fine with it, it's just he didn't know about his wife A. I don't think he has an A of his own, cause he is the type that go home after work and want a wife to be home with him.
Owl Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 She text him when he was with me. Sometimes called also. I don't think the husband will be fine with it, it's just he didn't know about his wife A. I don't think he has an A of his own, cause he is the type that go home after work and want a wife to be home with him. Have you asked her not to text him or call him when she's with you? Have you told her that you don't support her choice to cheat on her husband? Or am I wrong, and you're comfortable with what she's doing?
Author 4everloveu Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Have you asked her not to text him or call him when she's with you? Have you told her that you don't support her choice to cheat on her husband? Or am I wrong, and you're comfortable with what she's doing? I actually don't know her well. I hasn't talk to her before. He shared with me about their A and he get tired sometimes. She know about me little bit through him. So when we went out, she called or text him just to check what he doing. I'm not comfortable with what she doing. I know it's totally wrong to cheat on your husband. I have told my friend to tell her to go home and fix her marriage. That why he decided to end it with her last months. She continuted to called and text him. He can't denialed her call and now back to square one again.
Lucky_One Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 So...you are a woman, and you want this OM for your BF. When you go out with him, his MW texts him to check up on what he is doing. So you want to blow the EMA out of the water with the H, but you are afraid that the OM will be angry with you and not forgive you for meddling in his life. Correct? In this case, my opinion is that your telling is going to backfire on you. Your OM friend will not forgive what he will see as your betrayal of him. And getting this man as your BF simply because his MW breaks up with him is just a great way of being second choice, or just being the "fall back girl". As well, if the H kicks her out of the house, then OM and MW get to run off into the sunset together.
Dexter Morgan Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 I would think he do something if he ever find out. But if he didn't find out for the past 10 years. I don't think he ever find out. She must be good about hiding and sneaking out. you are right. he will never find out if there are going to be people, like you, who are out there and are just going to let him be kept in the dark about it. so all the people the know what she is doing, but then talking about it behind his back rather than tell him about it need to just shut up about it and find a new hobby.
whichwayisup Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 I've advised you before to tell your friend to end the affair. This selfish MW isn't going to leave her husband and start a new life with the OM aka your friend. He can love her all he wants, but he's wasting his own life away by staying in the affair. Why not ask him to come post here?
carhill Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 I think the OP is in love with the OM.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t182557/ This dynamic is a bit too loaded for me. I've been in those shoes and did keep my mouth shut, permanently. I think this is a no-win for the OP. Sorry....
GorillaTheater Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Sorry for not keeping up, but have we established yet that the OP is the one actually having an affair?
Author 4everloveu Posted June 9, 2009 Author Posted June 9, 2009 I've advised you before to tell your friend to end the affair. This selfish MW isn't going to leave her husband and start a new life with the OM aka your friend. He can love her all he wants, but he's wasting his own life away by staying in the affair. Why not ask him to come post here? thank you, he did end with her. She continuted to call, but he should ignored her called if he want to move on. I'll not tell him anymore as I have told him already. He knew she was selfish and only think for herself and nobody else. Until he throw him under the bus, and maybe it a wake up call for him.
Author 4everloveu Posted June 9, 2009 Author Posted June 9, 2009 So...you are a woman, and you want this OM for your BF. When you go out with him, his MW texts him to check up on what he is doing. So you want to blow the EMA out of the water with the H, but you are afraid that the OM will be angry with you and not forgive you for meddling in his life. Correct? In this case, my opinion is that your telling is going to backfire on you. Your OM friend will not forgive what he will see as your betrayal of him. And getting this man as your BF simply because his MW breaks up with him is just a great way of being second choice, or just being the "fall back girl". As well, if the H kicks her out of the house, then OM and MW get to run off into the sunset together. I didn't decide to tell her husband to get their family break up to get this guy. He told me that he scared the husband might find out and he might get hurt. I don't want him to get hurt or the other woman. He tired of waiting for her to divorce, but so loving her and don't know what to do. I have advise him to let her go home and fix her marriaged. He did that and told her he want to end the A. He told her to go home and fix her marriage. A couple days later, she called him again.
Owl Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 If he gets hurt...that's because he chose to sleep with another man's wife. NOT because of you. He clearly knows the risk, and he took that risk with the full knowledge that her H might "hurt" him as a result of all of this. How do you think the husband will feel about you, since you know but haven't told him?
Author 4everloveu Posted June 9, 2009 Author Posted June 9, 2009 If he gets hurt...that's because he chose to sleep with another man's wife. NOT because of you. He clearly knows the risk, and he took that risk with the full knowledge that her H might "hurt" him as a result of all of this. How do you think the husband will feel about you, since you know but haven't told him? I don't know her husband, so he don't know that I know the story. I don't want this guy to think that I'm betrayed him. Since he trust me and told me the story.
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