wow123 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Has anyone tried going to therapy when having difficulty getting over a bad break up? Just curious if it has helped anyone significantly. I am 2 months broken up and still extremely unhappy and depressed.
lora22 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 If you're depressed, that's your reason to go to therapy. I did go to therapy (issues over a final break up with an abusive bf, was legit depressed), only did about 10-12 sessions, and it helped IMMENSELY.
Author wow123 Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Thanks Lora, I am going to give it a go. Im embarrassed but am willing to try anything that will help.
lora22 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I had a hard time going at first too, and it was a huge secret, I didn't want anyone to know I was in therapy, but things got so bad that finally I just really needed that kind of help. Like I said, it was a great decision, and I'm so glad I did it. It's really important to talk to someone you feel comfortable with, so if you can, it never hurts to ask your doctor or someone you trust (a teacher, etc.) for a referral; also you should think about if you'd feel more comfortable talking to someone of the same sex and so on, and then act accordingly. Your first session will be kind of like an intro most likely, and to introduce yourselves and figure out what the problem is; this is when you get to see if you're comfortable; if you're not, don't hesitate to say so and ask for a referral to speak to someone else. Good luck!
TaraMaiden Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 If it is only 2 months, then it is not unusual. Breaking up is like a bereavement. It takes people different amounts of time to begin to heal. But 2 months is really very soon. Some people take a year or more! If it takes more than that - then yes - counselling is definitely on the cards. By all means go to counselling now if you think it might help. But please understand - it is all still very fresh. Like a deep would needing stitches, it takes time for everything to go back to normal. How big, deep or livid the scar is afterwards, is up to you.....
Author wow123 Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Thanks for all the advice. We were only together 7 months so I think i should be feeling better after 2.
TheBigCow Posted June 9, 2009 Posted June 9, 2009 Length is a big determining factor in how serious/emotionally committed a relationship is, but its not the only factor - don't feel like you have to feel better just because it was a short(ish) relationship. If it helps, I have a friend who broke up with a boyfriend of 1 month... took her half a year to get completely back to normal. She just has a really hard time with boys. But my point is, everyone heals a different rates.
jlr Posted June 10, 2009 Posted June 10, 2009 i highly suggest going. and this is from someone who was also embarassed by it and thought therapy was dumb. my ex and i broke up in october of last year. we were together just shy of five years. around january or so, i decided to go to therapy. it hadn't been super long since it happened, but i was just not doing well. plus, even though we broke up, we were still in contact and it was weird. and i also thought it would be a good time for me to work out any issues i might have had that could've contributed to the break up. or just things in general i could improve on. i did it for me, above all else. in the end, i've found it really helpful.
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