smalls552 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 alright, here's the deal: i had this fwb thing that turned into more for 2 1/2 years with this guy. it never turned into an official relationship, but we started to act like it. anyway, he ends up getting a real girlfriend and i was pretty much devastated. i mailed him a letter spilling my feelings for him and he called me back and all i got was "it's too late." that was a year ago and granted, i'm better than i was, but i still cry about it. like last night i was bawling my eyes out. it's so hard because i'm very good friends with his brother so it's damn near impossible for him not to be brought up. i don't want to cry anymore. i don't want to miss him anymore. i haven't talked to him since that phone call but i still have so many things i want to ask him. and a part of me feels like we should be together. another part of this story is that i've started seeing someone else. i like him, but there's no butterflies or infatuation just yet. he's a nice guy and i'd like to hang out with him a little more, but i think he's into me more than i am into him. how do i handle this? do i tell him about the fwb guy right now? it would be nice to have someone around, to not be so lonely anymore. i'd love to hear any words of encouragement/advice/whatever. thanks in advance!
crackerjax9 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 theres a reason your not together and it looks like fwb has moved on...i wouldnt tell the new guy about the old guy that just might scare him away...wait it out with this new guy feelings will develop..it took a few months for me and my ex to find chemistry because i was still hung up over the ex boyfriend before...just make sure you realize he might only be a rebound...hes a human too so dont hurt his feelings and lead him on if ur not looking for nething
sassyash Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 awww im so sorry you had to go through that. Forget him. He is the loser, it is HIS loss. I am still trying to get over someone, but we were just 'together' for 2 months but i was falling for him and i told him how i felt and i think it scared him away. I haven't contacted him for a month now--and i dont plan on it. If the stupid fag ever comes back to me I will tell him to get lost cuz he had his chance already. Dont put up with BS. I know it's hard to get over someone, since i still think about what I did wrong to this kid and how i could have prevented it...i am just beating myself up over it and its only going to hurt me more. When you find yourself thinking about him think of something else, go hang out with friends. Cry--it's not bad to do that, it just helps especially if you just bottle your feelings up. DONT contact him, if he wants to talk to you he will come to you. You are the prize to win, not the other way around Dont worry girl, I know what you are going through im with you on this one. And as for the new guy, i agree you should just wait it out and see. It usually takes time to realize that you really like that person and you want to be with them. hope this helped and good luck, it will get better in time (for me too, i hope lol)
gorgio Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I was in a very similar situation and she left me for a bf. You have to move on (I know it's hard, I have been trying for a while now) there are better people out there for us. Always keep asking yourself why you hang out for all this time and never committed to each other, I ask myself everyday and realize it is because we were not meant to be. Even though my heart still aches for her.
xxSRMxx Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I never got official relationship ''status'' either but we was together if u get my drift. But he was mr commitment phobe but for a lng long time he was sorta mine. Its a hard situation and u ask yaself when that person gets a bf or gf, why wasnt it me? Whats so special about her/him? Its pretty soul destroying and not good for the good old self esteem. No doubt yours has taken a battering, People always think the grass is greener, 80% of the time it isn't. Concentrate on yourself, forget about him, save yourself for somebody who will make you theres offically. Its only what we deserve right?
jessicasilver Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 aww i know the exact pain your going through i split up with my ex of 2 years and i was devasted, i felt so lonely and used to always miss him, then i met a new guy... he wasnt like my ex, he cared for me so much and loved me more then i loved him, i used to still cal my ex while i was with him which is bad i know... but then over time i think 6 months later i realised that i started to have feelings for him... i used to miss him and care for him alot and one day i just forgot about my ex... in fact he doesnt even come in to my head anymore LOL you just have to give it some time!! btw im not with this guy no more so im heart broken again!!
Author smalls552 Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 thanks for the encouragement guys! i really need it. some days i feel fine and confident, that he made the mistake. but then other days, i just want to stay in bed and cry. i can't believe it's been so long and i'm still not over it. i'd really love to wake up some day and not think about it for the entire day. it helps with the new guy, but i'm so scared i'm going to hurt him. ugh...
Marina09 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 aww i know the exact pain your going through i split up with my ex of 2 years and i was devasted, i felt so lonely and used to always miss him, then i met a new guy... he wasnt like my ex, he cared for me so much and loved me more then i loved him, i used to still cal my ex while i was with him which is bad i know... but then over time i think 6 months later i realised that i started to have feelings for him... i used to miss him and care for him alot and one day i just forgot about my ex... in fact he doesnt even come in to my head anymore LOL you just have to give it some time!! btw im not with this guy no more so im heart broken again!! Jessica, I'm curious... What happened with your ex? The one you starting loving after some time... The story is similar to mine and I would like to know what was the reason you broke up.
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