Summerday Posted October 28, 2003 Posted October 28, 2003 My ex friend and I have been close for about 5 years, she was there for me when my ex ex and I broke up 4 years ago and we have been close ever since. I met someone at our gym the same week I broke up with my ex ex and dated him for the next 4 years, unfortunately I also dated someone else while I dated him during the 1st year and half of our relationship. My best friend knew of this all along. She has been married for 28 years and has had her share of bad behavior. My ex of 4 years recently found out about my other relationship (cheating) and has broken up with me. For this I am devasted as that relationship had been over for a while and I realized I loved him more then ever. Hard to believe I know, but true. At this time, my best friend felt I should tell him the truth, I told her I didn't think he needed to know about something that happened and was over. At that time the betrayal happened, I wasn't sure what I felt for him. Why someone felt he needed to know is beyond me. Someone wrote him a letter. This person (betrayal person) and I were strictly friends, and had been for months. She told her husband what I did and he called me and threatend me, that if I didn't tell him they would... I was blown away by this as they had been my friends first, and they got to know my bf through me. I respect their thoughts, but I feel it was my descision. They both have betrayed each other and they have taken vows in front of GOD. I was not married, nor engaged nor was I given even a verbal promise for anything. I feel I can never trust her again. I also feel we as women and "girlfriends" have certain boundaries and respect for each other that we should not cross. I could have said a lot to her husband, and possibly reached some level of satisfaction. But why hurt a 28 year marriage. I miss my BF with all my heart. Unfortunately I should have never dated him so soon after my first break up. You live and learn.
Girlinterrupted Posted October 29, 2003 Posted October 29, 2003 So your friend her husband and your x-bf became good freinds and now you "freinds" feel the need to rat you out to him becasue they are his friend. This is wrong, your girl friend should had never told her husband and in doing so she betrayed your trust. I would never go telling my man what my friends do, for what? I would know from the start that NO good would come of it. So to answer your question, Yes, She did betray you. As for what they are getting out of doing this to you, I can't begin to imagine. it's admirable of you not to throw in their faces that they too have made mistakes, I don't think I would have been so nice. I would tell them all fair well, with freinds like that who needs enemies!
lipglossboost Posted November 5, 2003 Posted November 5, 2003 Friends help you through your mistakes and allow you to make your own decisions. She has no right to make these demands on you. A true friend will respect your privacy and personal life choices, whether she agrees with them or not.
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