Redstorm Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 After 22 years my ptr and I separated early this year. He chose to leave after I said I needed more support as work a 60 plus week, we have a teenage boy, our house is like a drop in centre every weekend and I we have not kissed other then sex for years nor been out as a family, to dinner on holiday for a least a decade. He was not interested in the home or garden only watching sport on TV and being with his mates. At first I was happy that he left as he has extreme mood swings and even when a neighbor said he was seeing someone I wasn't upset. He moved across the road as his houseminding and we were getting on better than ever. Now I find out that he has been contacting the OW since before he left. Whereas he has never texted me and would only call for housekeeping issue when I got our phone bill he has been texting her up to 10 times a day. The bill also showed that while I was out picking up our son from a party New Years Eve he got our of bed and used our home phone to call her. What I don't get is that there was no phone contact before this and none for two months after. The worst thing is that she lives in our street in a rental with her teenage daughter and as we live a small town I see her children all the time in the shops that I have to go to. He angrily questions me about where I have been if I am late home. Even though I have written to him as you can't have a rational conversation explaining that he had been emotionally absent for years and that by having the affair across the road is hurtful all he has said is that he has been a "bit" of ...... over the years. He wanted to know where he stands so he can move on. I said you have moved on you are sleeping with her and have made no effort at reconciliation. My problem now is he wants me to buy him out of the house. (my job ends this year) , gives no money for our son other than $20 to him every now and then, has watched trees fall down at the house and knows that because he did no maintainence that it is now costing me fortune for repairs for basics like heating, plumbing and electrical. He has been uncontactable this whole weekend and I needed his support because our son is becoming uncontrollable and is staying out late and drinking. I have texted him that we need to talk about shared care and shared cost but no reply. My son will not hear a bad word about him. I feel I am housebound, broke, and have no social life.
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I'd be considering a consultation (they are usually free) with a ball-chewing shark of a lawyer who will make sure that you and your son are well taken care of. Tell the lawyer everything you have said here - I would wager that not only will the lawyer take your case, he/she will hopefully bend your ass of a husband over and ream him to within an inch of his life.
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