APbabyy Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Okay, I'm seventeen and will be turning 18 in a month. and my ex boyfriend of a year and 4 months is 6 years older than me. We recently just broke up. I kept breaking up with him because he was constantly picky, argumentative and fed off of talking down to me. Here's my problem...I would ALWAYS go down on him, and I'd say for the first 6-7 months he would go down on me often until he stopped all together. Now I hate my vagina, the look...smell, ugh everything...so when he stopped doing this, of course I got paranoid. Well I broke up with him and in an apology letter he wrote down he was sorry for not eating me out ever...so when we got back together, one night hanging out watching a movie somehow vaginas came up in a side conversation, then eating a girl out.. and i say "yeah you never do it" and he goes "ew gross no."....like thats it. Nothing else. I freaked and didnt want him near me I'm not going to let the ******* be like that to me, but my self esteem was lower than low and still is...I dont want guys near my vagina that my ex thought "ew gross" about. I'm scarred for life, what do I do!
Gremio Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 You're fine! I started typing then I stopped just now... brought me way back. When I was young, the first time I ever went to third base a girl, immediately afterward I went to the bathroom and washed my hands. I was completely grossed at that time, when I was young. Now I'm in my mid 20s and absolutely love going down on a woman.
Citizen Erased Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Maybe he meant them in general, not yours in particular...
coconuts Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 There are some guys who aren't into it at all. It's nothing personal against you, they just don't like to go down on girls. Just like there are girls that aren't into blowjobs. I'm sure your vagina is fine
Enema Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 The type of guy that doesn't go down on women don't get quality women because they're useless assh0les.... They usually gravitate towards women that are: - Insecure - Younger than him - Inexperienced .... because they don't know any better. Now you do, stop being a tool.
OverThinker Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 He's an ass, I'm sure your fine. I personally love going down on a woman, and yes every woman tastes a little differant ( hope that wasn't to graphic). Some I liked some I didn't care for but I never told them that(thats just rude and nothing they did wrong), But its just like food what one man dislikes another will love, so don't worry about your vagina I am sure it is just like millions of others out there and to the right man it will be the best there is.
mogul Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Its nothing personal. Many guys are afraid of giving a girl oral. In the beginning, I was petrified of it .Its more of an acquired taste. I love giving oral now, and the taste, and the look on the girls face. (sorry if too graphic like someone said above).
Touche Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 don't worry about your vagina I am sure it is just like millions of others out there Uhm...was that supposed to make her feel better?
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I dont understand it either as a man myself. How could I not reciprocate my woman especially if she hit me off going downtown??? I know a few friends that wont do it because they are little bitches with self esteem issues. If you can hit the spot and do it right, there shouldnt be any problem! Some of them think it's disgusting which confuses the hell out of me, but to the OP you just picked a guy who's a complete punk. Geezus your only 17!!! m There's gonna be a multitude of men in your life who are gonna do freaky stuff to you, dont sweat it. Just a few things, for you to know. Keep it clean shaved (guys are tired of coughing up hairballs and weed whacking!), no smells whatsoever!!! and make sure your into it, when he does attempts!!! Remember that and you'll be fine.
Ariadne Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 "ew gross no."....like thats it. Many guys are like that. It doesn't matter what it looks or smells like, they still think it's gross. Go figure.
playlislay Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 1) Yes, you will find that alot of men are like that, just the same as some women who do not like 'going down there' with a man. 2) My own husband (Im 24 btw) never used to like going down on me. Infact, towards the end of our marriage he actually done it JUST to try and save the relationship, lmao! And no, I didnt break up with him because of anything sexual-fyi. 3) I remember when I was your age, well, 16. I remember thinking that I would NEVER let a man go down there as it is disgusting-who would want to lick that and why??? Now.......well, lets just say that I cant get enough! ) Dont get a complex hun, honestly, I bet yours looks/smells/tastes just the same as everyone elses.
Lucky_One Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Just a few things, for you to know. Keep it clean shaved (guys are tired of coughing up hairballs and weed whacking!), no smells whatsoever!!! and make sure your into it, when he does attempts!!! Well, that's mainly BS advice. You do NOT have to keep it clean shaven. YOU trim YOUR pubic hair as to how it pleases YOU - whether you like it natural, trimmed a little, trimmed close or completely gone. I have NEVER seen a man who would refuse to get close to a woman's genitals because of the hair cut. Yes, it can be more comfortable for a man if there is less long hair there, but there is no need to shave. No smells whatsoever? It is a vagina. It is going to have smells and discharges. Keep it as clean as possible (without using any nasty tasting or fake smelling "feminine cleansing" items (which aren't necessary and are born from this very issue) Soap and water are all that is necessary. A healthy vagina is going to smell like a healthy vagina. And even the cleanest and healthiest vagina is going to have "stuff" down there. The smell typically is a huge turn-on to most men. And NEVER NEVER fake being into it, if you aren't REALLY into it! No reason to act bored or be impolite or hurtful by rolling over and saying "Well THAT was a waste of my time" but there is no need, either, to sigh and moan and writhe if you are not writhing, sighing and moaning all on your own. And when you have a BF (and you WILL) who appreciates a vagina and knows how to properly love one, you will sign and moan and writhe with no prodding.
JohnnyBlaze Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Well, that's mainly BS advice. You do NOT have to keep it clean shaven. YOU trim YOUR pubic hair as to how it pleases YOU - whether you like it natural, trimmed a little, trimmed close or completely gone. I have NEVER seen a man who would refuse to get close to a woman's genitals because of the hair cut. Yes, it can be more comfortable for a man if there is less long hair there, but there is no need to shave. I partially agree; it's up to the individual to trim it/shave it/whatever it how they feel. However, there are advantages to having it trimmed/shaved. It does minimize the smells, as hair does seem to trap some smells. Also, nothing kills the momentum like having to stop every few minutes to pick hairs out of your teeth. It doesn't have to be stripper-smooth, but we don't want to be humming "Welcome to the Jungle" either. Plus, (as per comments from girls I've known) when the vagina is more exposed, it's more sensitive, which leads to faster and more intense (and sometimes just plain more) orgasms. To the OP: as others have said, some guys just don't like going down on a girl. They will not do it on a plane, they will not do it in a train. They will not do it in the park, they will not do it in the dark. It just won't happen, no matter what. There are some guys for whom it's an acquired taste; they'll be hesitant at first, but over time, they'll get more used to it and start enjoying it more. And of course, at the other end of the spectrum, there are guys like me, who jump at the opportunity like Dom Deluise at a Vegas buffet. So don't go assuming that it's anything to do with you specifically. Some guys do, some guy's don't. You just happened to find a "don't" this time around. There are plenty of "do" guys out there. Don't get discouraged, okay?
lora22 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I agree with Lucky's comments on this. Awhile ago I actually read like a 20 page thread about oral sex on anoather forum and a huge number of guys on the board actually said trimmed is better than shaved, because it's more comfortable for them, but that honestly it doesn't matter. If they like going down on women, then that's not really a deterant. As far as taste and stuff goes, it's pretty much the same as goes for men, ie, you are what you eat (to at least an extent). So everyone is unique, however rule of thumb is eating/drinking nasty stuff (alcohol, coffee, garlic) affects your taste one way; eating sugary sweet things (pinepple) affects your taste the other way.
Lucky_One Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 If you can get your hands on the old copy of "The Joy of Sex", then do. And read it. It IS a bit old-fashioned (the drawings of the woman show her with unshaven armpits!), but it makes you feel great about your body and about its wonders and mysteries.
Jersey Shortie Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Well, that's mainly BS advice. You do NOT have to keep it clean shaven. YOU trim YOUR pubic hair as to how it pleases YOU - whether you like it natural, trimmed a little, trimmed close or completely gone. I have NEVER seen a man who would refuse to get close to a woman's genitals because of the hair cut. Yes, it can be more comfortable for a man if there is less long hair there, but there is no need to shave. No smells whatsoever? It is a vagina. It is going to have smells and discharges. Keep it as clean as possible (without using any nasty tasting or fake smelling "feminine cleansing" items (which aren't necessary and are born from this very issue) Soap and water are all that is necessary. A healthy vagina is going to smell like a healthy vagina. And even the cleanest and healthiest vagina is going to have "stuff" down there. The smell typically is a huge turn-on to most men. And NEVER NEVER fake being into it, if you aren't REALLY into it! No reason to act bored or be impolite or hurtful by rolling over and saying "Well THAT was a waste of my time" but there is no need, either, to sigh and moan and writhe if you are not writhing, sighing and moaning all on your own. And when you have a BF (and you WILL) who appreciates a vagina and knows how to properly love one, you will sign and moan and writhe with no prodding. Agreed. Great Advice. Any grown man that doesn't expect a vagina to have an auroma or to be shaved isn't realistic about sex and the human body.
LukeC Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Forget about it ! In one word he's IMMATURE. I don't lick a girl out because I enjoy it I do it for the girl.
boldjack Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 CB, Any guy , who won't go down on a woman, because of her hair, has to be something of a wuss. OP, your vagina is just about the most wonderful thing there is. Don't let some immature boy tell you anything negative about it. Keep it clean, shave or wax if YOU want to, or don't, suit yourself. One day you will get a guy , who will make it seem like the center of the world, then you will be really glad you have one.
carhill Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 BF is a loser and a statutory rapist (22 yo sexing a 16 yo). Young lady, where are your mother and father? Mom should be talking to you about all things vaginal and dad should be having a talk with your exBF. Yes, I know kids grow up fast these days and I still maintain that is not a good thing.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Well, that's mainly BS advice. You do NOT have to keep it clean shaven. YOU trim YOUR pubic hair as to how it pleases YOU - whether you like it natural, trimmed a little, trimmed close or completely gone. I have NEVER seen a man who would refuse to get close to a woman's genitals because of the hair cut. Yes, it can be more comfortable for a man if there is less long hair there, but there is no need to shave. No smells whatsoever? It is a vagina. It is going to have smells and discharges. Keep it as clean as possible (without using any nasty tasting or fake smelling "feminine cleansing" items (which aren't necessary and are born from this very issue) Soap and water are all that is necessary. A healthy vagina is going to smell like a healthy vagina. And even the cleanest and healthiest vagina is going to have "stuff" down there. The smell typically is a huge turn-on to most men. And NEVER NEVER fake being into it, if you aren't REALLY into it! No reason to act bored or be impolite or hurtful by rolling over and saying "Well THAT was a waste of my time" but there is no need, either, to sigh and moan and writhe if you are not writhing, sighing and moaning all on your own. And when you have a BF (and you WILL) who appreciates a vagina and knows how to properly love one, you will sign and moan and writhe with no prodding. No it's not!!!! BS, no man if he's gonna go downtown wants hairballs in his throat, trim or shaven, please keep it nice and neat. Trust I've seen some bushes that tarzan himself wont swing around. Period. lol. Next yes, I understand that the female vagina has smells and discharges I get that. but I mean you dont want to smell like fishy fry weekend before hand now do you, Trust me I've had bad horror stories. lol. You can clean , doushe, perfume, whatever,, make sure it smells nice. Lastly you dont have to fake it. yes I agree but no man wants to go down on a female and she's in a catatonic state!!!! dont lay there like a lump on a log and expect him to perform. If a dude wants to eat the box he has to be confident, he doesnt need you messing with his skills if he does attempts, see what im pointing to. If your not into it then fine say so. but dont be like do it please and when he gets there your still not satisfied. I know that all women are different there gonna have different arousal points on their body, if he's a bit below above or below the mark direct him to it. sheesh.
Lucky_One Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 You can clean , doushe, perfume, whatever,, make sure it smells nice. Clean, yes. Douche, no; it is unhealthy for your vagina. Perfume, ridiculous. It is a PUSSY - it is supposed to smell like one!! If you want to eat a flower, go plant a rose bush. Honestly, women can get terrible hang-ups from men saying things like "Go douche before you let a guy go down on you, or you might smell like a fish fry". My BF prefers that I DON'T shower immediately before sex, because he says I don't have my natural taste and scent. He LOVES the way I taste, and heaven forbid I come in from running and want to take a shower, because he wants to throw me down on the floor in the living room and have a taste; he likes the sweat on my breasts, too, now that I think about it. It's all about the pheromones - wash them away, and you have nothing but a sterile, rose-scented (or even worse, gak, blueberry scented!) tube of muscle. Leave those pheromones alone, and you have an exquisite sensory organ that, as Boldjack says, will make someone worship your vagina as the center of the universe!
carhill Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 LOL, let's all get on board for the man getting a BJ on his natural, unwashed, unscented d*ck. I kill myself
Els Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 No it's not!!!! BS, no man if he's gonna go downtown wants hairballs in his throat, trim or shaven, please keep it nice and neat. No vaginal hair ever comes off in HAIRBALLS. Or have you been going down on some felines instead? Next yes, I understand that the female vagina has smells and discharges I get that. but I mean you dont want to smell like fishy fry weekend before hand now do you, Trust me I've had bad horror stories. lol. You can clean , doushe, perfume, whatever,, make sure it smells nice. I recommend you go read up on douching before you start recommending it. Really. And perfume LOL. Okaaayyy... With all that said though, I think every guy has a right to not feel comfortable with giving oral sex, although I'm sure there are more mature ways to say it to one's gf than 'EWW GROSS'. Just like every woman has a right to not want to give blowjobs. The partner just needs to decide how important that aspect is to them in their sexual life. I personally wouldn't mind if my guy didn't want to go down on me, as long as he took care to make sure I'm satisfied through other means.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Clean, yes. Douche, no; it is unhealthy for your vagina. Perfume, ridiculous. It is a PUSSY - it is supposed to smell like one!! If you want to eat a flower, go plant a rose bush. Honestly, women can get terrible hang-ups from men saying things like "Go douche before you let a guy go down on you, or you might smell like a fish fry". My BF prefers that I DON'T shower immediately before sex, because he says I don't have my natural taste and scent. He LOVES the way I taste, and heaven forbid I come in from running and want to take a shower, because he wants to throw me down on the floor in the living room and have a taste; he likes the sweat on my breasts, too, now that I think about it. It's all about the pheromones - wash them away, and you have nothing but a sterile, rose-scented (or even worse, gak, blueberry scented!) tube of muscle. Leave those pheromones alone, and you have an exquisite sensory organ that, as Boldjack says, will make someone worship your vagina as the center of the universe! LMAO. Some men are different. Some prefer women to wash before sex, some dont mind it if she came to bed like she is. every man is different. I myself just prefer a little wash down there or something.
Recommended Posts