Gremio Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Hey all, long time no see! Anywho, just a curious and quick question(s). I'm only summarizing everything. I'm in my mid 20s, she's in the early 20s. Met someone, hit it off, have a great relationship, SHE calls/texts me everyday, doesn't want to spend a day without me, then out of nowhere turns quiet and cold (short convos, one word answers when I call/text). So in summary, I get the "let's be friends/I need space" talk. I do give space and stop calling/texting, then... I get scolded from her for not calling/texting her last night by text. Can someone fill me in on what I'm missing? I do as she asks, then I'm chided for it. What gives?
MinziGirl Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 She was trying to play hard to get. When she realised her plan was backfiring, she wanted that close & cosy contact again.
Author Gremio Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 She certainly appears to not want to contact me. She won't call me or text me, and I don't exist unless to her I unless contact her first. When I do, she's cold and angry as if I should have spoken to her sooner. The problem is I have no idea what to say anymore since these games started a week ago. I told her how I felt and I've tried enough at this point to make sure she knows it. The ball was in her court. Unfortunately I've moved on, even though I didn't want to. I know when to stop trying.
Lucky_One Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Does she do 90% of the contacting or 90% of the mushy talking? Maybe she wants YOU to do some. Maybe she wants to see if you actually miss her rather than just let her do the emotional lifting?
Soul Bear Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Does she do 90% of the contacting or 90% of the mushy talking? Maybe she wants YOU to do some. Maybe she wants to see if you actually miss her rather than just let her do the emotional lifting? 100% agreed
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I would stop this game and ask her what she is doing: "X, what exactly is it you are doing and why are you doing it? It is a simple yes or no answer: do you want to be with me or not?" I would tell her patiently that you do not want any answer except a 'yes' or a 'no' and then go from there. I'd be really curious as to how that goes down.
samspade Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I get scolded from her for not calling/texting her last night by text. Tell her you've been taking out other women with your new-found free time. She's just insulted that you're not being a male version of a girl friend. If she is acting like she wants more than that, tell her to give you a call when she figures out what she wants.
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