Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 A few days ago I had a break down in depression. I felt like I was going through withdrawl. Hot flashes, upset stomach ,dizzy, ears ringing. I felt like I was in a horrible haze. The day I told myself we wern't getting back together and I washed away all my false hopes and decided to just face the pain ahead. I would rather just get it over with and begin healing. The last 3 days since then I dream about him everynight. It sucks. I started keeping a journal again of my feelings dreams and just my day to day life. I know alot of you have these dreams. It seems to kill the pain for a little while but when the dream is gone your world is crashing down again. I know they don't help me. I just keep praying for them to go away. One day I hope to go back and read my journal and realize how far I have come and how much better everything is. My question to you guys is. Your dreams, are you glad you have them? Do they help you in some way? Or do you think there hurting your progress and wish they would go away?
TheBigCow Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 To answer your question - I wish mine would go away, sometimes I wake up filled with false hope, only to crash once again. I don't know if this is sound advice or not, but if someone wants to remember their dreams a good way of doing it is putting a journal next to your bed and thinking about writing them down.. so if you do want to stop having them then maybe its best to tell yourself you're not going to write about your dreams and put any kind of paper and pen away from your bed. Its not surefire, but might be worth trying.
Author Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 7, 2009 Author Posted June 7, 2009 Your probably right about not writing my dreams down. I thought if I did then when I looked back on my progress the dreams would be gone and I would see I have come along way. But I don't go back to read my journal. I figured that would come when I was feeling better.
TheBigCow Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 I think keeping a journal probably isn't a bad idea.. but I think you need to use it as an outlet, not plan to write everything you think in it.. otherwise you'll need to dwell on bad thoughts.
Patrice Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 Are a part of the healing process ... let them come .. had one last night .. dressed in black and speaking to the ex saying we never should have married in the first place ... let it flow, your spirit will carry you .. feel the pain and learn to let it go day by day .. keep busy, keep engaging with others, and rebuild your support system .. best of luck and love to you ...
Author Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 7, 2009 Author Posted June 7, 2009 Ty Patrice, I wish mine were like yours. I think they would help me move ahead. Mine have been him coming to me and saying how much he loves me and misses me. Among other things. I usually sit there silent. He does all the talking. I think what I want to say is there, but it never comes out in my dreams. It really sucks we have been apart for 2 and a half months. I would have thought these dreams would have started a while back and finished by now. The worst part is I told myself I was going to stop thinking about him as much, and these dreams are making it worse.
TheBigCow Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I am 4 months in Icequeen.. for me it comes in cycles. I was really bad at 1 month, 2.5 months and then again about a week ago. It sucks.. all we can do it make it through each new day
Cora Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 I think my dreams are helping me. They at least help me to hate him more. The other night I had a dream that the new girl he has just started seeing he asked to be his girlfriend and then he proceeded to introduce her to me. Ughh!!!!! This morning I check my facebook to find out he has changed his relationship status to in a relationship with this new girl. When he first left me I used to have dreams about him telling me he still loved me etc.. which didn't help me at all. Now I can deal a little better with these dreams. I also like the journal idea! I may have to start that myself.
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