TheBigCow Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 Hi guys. So behind anything we can do or think about our ex's or lost loved ones ect, some of us here are suffering (or have) from more deep rooted clinical depression and the like. Please don't get me wrong, heartbreak is like having your blood slowly drained from your body.. but I've got specific questions about more irrational emotions. I'm really starting to have problems with my depression. My sleeping it TERRIBLE, I am sleeping around 2 hours a night, and when I wake up I'm in a cold sweat. I almost constantly feel completely worthless and dead inside, weeping all the time. But one thing that is really getting to me recently is anxiety attacks. The worst is when its 3am and you start going nuts... there is no one around to calm you down. What do you do? I mean obviously I'm here to tell the tale.. but I feel really worried I can handle it being any worse. During the day I have people I can talk to/phone/txt/email/LS ect, which helps me make it through the day most of the time. Having said that most of my friends are getting bored with talking about it (fair enough) I do feel **** about my Ex but I feel like this is getting much past just missing her. If my ex was still around I'm sure she could calm me down
Cloudberry Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 Counseling helps. You can always get antidepressants prescribed to you, but they aren't that effective unless you also get counseling. I got back into counseling after my boyfriend made me move out a month ago. I really felt like I was overly depressed, and not only because of our split. If you can't afford it, there is often low-cost counseling from your county, or from charity organizations. Read the book "Feeling Good" by Dr David Burns if you'd rather not get counseling.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 I know how you feel. I have suffered from depression for a long time. I was on medication for a year when I got off I felt alot better. The depression dosen't seem to bother me as much now. I do have trouble sleeping but I don't cry as often. You really need to go see your doctor and get on some medication. You might need to try a few diffrent kinds before one works properly for you. It can also help with your anxiety if it is really bad especially at a certain time they might give you something else on top of the depression medication for it. You need to let your doctor know about all your symptoms. Also let him not about your past depression. If you are on a medication then you need to try a diffrent one. I hope this helps. You will be in my prayers. Sincerly, J
Author TheBigCow Posted June 7, 2009 Author Posted June 7, 2009 Thanks guys. I am taking some medication (actually just had my dosage put up a bit), not sure if its really making any difference, but I'll give it a bit of time. I also went to a few counciling sessions but I really didn't click with the woman. She was blind and I know it sound bad, but the fact that she was blind made it really hard, it took away an element of the social interaction. I think I'll try a new one if I can get one that isn't too expensive. Really sorry to hear that you've had to deal with that Jdw, have you tried counciling at all? Can I ask your advice on something else? I guess really this just comes down to me, but I just would like your opinions. Right now I'm staying with my family in a different town than I usually live in. It's 'easy' up here financially/warmer ect .. but its also a little bit isolating, all of my friends are back in my 'home' town. Unfortunately so is my ex and a lot of my friends are mutual friends.. so its a little tougher being town there in that respect. I want to go back.. but I don't know if its for the best. I do have some amazing flatmates back at 'home' who are probably the only reason I didn't do anything stupid at my very lowest points.... they're awesome
Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 No, I haven't done counseling. I can't afford it and I can't even afford the cheap kind. I have my friends but I try to avoid them latly because I feel like I am just overloading them with ex talk. No need to bring them down too. I come here and vent, I spend time with my kids. I try to spend time outside when I can. I most likley will when I can. I think you should do what you feel is right. If you think you can go back now and you will still be ok, then go. If you need more time then definetly don't rush yourself into somthing your not ready for.
Author TheBigCow Posted June 7, 2009 Author Posted June 7, 2009 hmm I know exactly what you mean about overloading your friends with ex talk.. I feel like sometimes they start to hate my ex for leaving because it causes THEM such a hassle! Sometimes though.. you need a more human interaction that LS I find.. at the very least chat, at best face to face. I've gotten into the habit of occasionally asking friends if they've got a bit of time free to talk to me about stuff later in the week, that way they don't feel like they NEED to stop me from jumping off a bridge so they can choose if they mind or not. Yeah.. I will try and follow my gut feeling I guess (after giving it some time), maybe sometimes over thinking things is not a good idea.
Cloudberry Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 How did the once respectable USA turn into a place where antidepressants are dispensed freely, yet, counseling is too expensive for most citizens?
Author TheBigCow Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 True.. then again look at the production cost of each. I agree though, its an unhealthy way to treat the problems.
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