minniezz Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 Hi guys/girls! Well,thing is i just broke up with my gf and like now i have a lot of unsure emotions about a lot of things...like being sad,short temper,cranky...Whenever i go out,it stops for a bit but when i go to bed,it starts again,it makes me really hard to sleep well.It keeps bothering me every freaking single second whenever i m alone.I try to keep it off my mind and it seems it just works for a lil while then it comes back. So im here to look for some advices...Can any of you guys who have been thro the same situations gimme some advices pls ? Thankiz
TaraMaiden Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Hi there, Look I know I am repeating myself, because I have said thisa to other people, but chances are you are hearing it for the first time. It's very difficult to believe but we actually actively create our emotions, and how we feel, through our thoughts and what goes through our minds. In other words, if we feel- sad, short tempered ,cranky It's because you actually create those states in your mind, before you feel that way. By whatever thoughts you have. You think about a situation, and then the emotions or feelings follow, almost immediately. When you go out, you actually create distractions for yourself. But when you return, there is nothing else to occupy your attention, so your thoughts revert to thinking of her. It keeps bothering me every freaking single second whenever i m alone.I try to keep it off my mind and it seems it just works for a lil while then it comes back. The trick is actually to observe your mind's process. And when a thought comes up about her, to say to yourself "Why am I beating myself up with this? Fer chrissakes, just stop doing this to yourself, man, she's gone and not worth it!" As the saying goes, 'don't let her live rent-free in your head'. Now, it does take practice, but after a while, you will spot the thoughts arising and before they can take hold, and affect your mood, you can shrug them off and tell them to get lost. Keep at it. It does work. It takes effort, but it will pay off. Good luck.
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