Your Favourite Smile Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 This guy ive been involved with for around a year and a half, we have had a fair few rough times and this has led to breaking up for short periods of time before he realises he misses me and that we should be together. This happened again again early this month, although at the back of my mind i know i was stupid for letting him come back so easily without sorting out all the problems that had caused us to break in the first place. All was fine for a week or two, though i was growing frustrated at the fact he wouldnt be able to see me because he was busy. Regardless of this though, we were communicating fine. I started texting him more, though it seemed he lost interest and after one week of nothing i just had to find out what was up. So i tried contacting, but nothing came of it. He hasnt contacted me for around two weeks now, and i dont know what the hell is up. Now one half of me is telling me im stupid for waiting for him all the time and that problems havnt solved over this long period of time and so that should be my alert that this 'relationship' isnt going to work at all. Though the other half of me keeps hanging on and is determined to wait so that i have the big chance to sort everything once and for all. I just dont know what to do, wait or give up everything. I do care a LOT about this person, and it will pain me if i do give up.. but im not left much choice at all. I hope someone can clear things a bit for me
Cloudberry Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Are you tired of being a yo-yo? It sounds like he breaks up with you, he misses you, and you always take him back. Anyway, he never returned your call or email or whatever, so the ball is in his court. He has to be the one to contact you next, and are you sure you even want to get back together, if he does call you? I think you're right to say this probably won't work, and if you've had that many rough patches / breakups in just a year and a half.
Author Your Favourite Smile Posted June 6, 2009 Author Posted June 6, 2009 Are you tired of being a yo-yo? It sounds like he breaks up with you, he misses you, and you always take him back. Anyway, he never returned your call or email or whatever, so the ball is in his court. He has to be the one to contact you next, and are you sure you even want to get back together, if he does call you? I think you're right to say this probably won't work, and if you've had that many rough patches / breakups in just a year and a half You're right, and ive made the mistake time and time again of just taking him back when there is something that needs resolving. Ive recognised that communication is what needs improving, and that will only come from spending time with eachother a lot more. I will just have to go NC, ive got busy times ahead.. and if he is to call, there will be a lot of talking to do before a conclusion is drawn. Ive got strength now to say exactly how ive felt, and exactly what the problems are. But if he doesnt contact, then it is fair to say he is not worth my feelings or my time. The problem is communication and it always has been, im sure there are solutions to this.. though it's the effort that is made that matters. Thanks for the response
lora22 Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 He hasnt contacted me for around two weeks now, and i dont know what the hell is up. What's up is, he hasn't contacted you in two weeks, or bothered to respond to you, so EF him. Now one half of me is telling me im stupid for waiting for him all the time and that problems havnt solved over this long period of time and so that should be my alert that this 'relationship' isnt going to work at all. You should listen to that half of yourself. It is telling you the TRUTH. just dont know what to do, wait or give up everything. Sorry, but HE already made the choice to give everything up, by not contacting you, which means that you're only choice is to move on. Honestly, he made the choice, thereby taking it away from you, so the only thing for you to do is to move on.
juschilln Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 i understand what you are going through ive been going through the same exact thing.....ive been nc for 3 days now she texted me yesterday i didnt think of responding back... im gonna ride this 60 day wave of no contact to see what happens who knows 60 may turn into 120. i felt just like u wondering if i should wait or give up but if u were the best you could be towards that person thats all you can do if they come around they come around but i realized theres only 2 results that come from nc they either will want u back more and u make the decision if u want them back or you will move on a stronger person with them living in regret of the loss of something great... lifes too short to wait on something mediocre when u can find something better
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